The truth can hurt…

And it can REALLY hurt when it comes to family matters.

A man asked the fine folks on Reddit’s “Am I the *******?” page if he was wrong for telling his dad’s wife the real background about his family.

AITA for revealing to my dad’s wife the real reason why me and him were never close?

“My dad practically gave me up to his sister from the moment I (27M) was born. My mom passed away when she was giving birth to me. And my aunt told me he never recovered from that because he blamed me for her passing away.

This guy had a lot of weight put on him from a young age.

It hurt a lot as a kid that at family events he would ignore my existence. When I was a little older he got more vocal about me “*******” her and he can’t stand to look at my face.

You can imagine the amount of therapy that put me in. I used to go to church crying because I was scared about going to Hell for doing that to my mom. That’s how much his words messed me up. But the worst part was that I never stopped trying to be accepted by him.

And his dad was a real piece of work.

After my high school graduation he told me to never bother him again since he legally has no obligation to me anymore (since he was sending my aunt money to take care of me). Around that time is when I finally started accepting that reality so from there we moved on with our lives.

My aunt doesn’t talk to me about him. Sometimes my grandparents do and that’s how I found out he got married. They were mad he didn’t invite me to their wedding but to me it didn’t matter because we’re not close. But it was his wife who wanted to meet me.

But his dad had a change of heart, so to speak

It’s the first time ever that he wants to make contact and it was to pretty much say she wants me in their life. She doesn’t know the real reason about why we’re estranged, he asked me to please not say anything and maybe this could be a way to reconcile after all.

But he was only doing it for her. That much was clear when we talked. I never said I would be he still insisted on us meeting at their place because she really wanted to meet me.

All she thinks is we were estranged for not getting along in my teenager years, going to college and losing touch because of “life stuff.” It ****** me off that he played it off as us just not talking for petty reasons meanwhile the actually reason damaged me for years.

So he decided to spill his guts.

I told her the truth. Everything he said to me. That he was never a parent to me, that was all my aunt. It was definitely a shock for her. The outcome was a disaster.

Everyone has heard about this now. My grandma’s in particular told me she understands my anger. But this was his chance finding someone since losing my mom and now it’s been put in jeopardy.

His dad was not pleased with this development.

My dad is devastated. They think it was going too far to ruin his marriage that way when he was willing to include me in their lives which could have been the start of our relationship.

And they say not only did I ruin that but also possibly wrecked his marriage. She just doesn’t agree at all with what he did and it could’ve been avoided if I didn’t say anything.

For me it was hard not to tell the truth after the lies made it seem like it was nothing serious. I couldn’t ignore what happened after what it did. Idk if it was the right call since it put their whole marriage at risk after all.”

Let’s see what folks had to say about this on Reddit.

One person told him he was sorry for what he had to go through.

Another reader made some excellent points.

This Reddit user said this is his dad’s fault.

Another reader said he’s NTA and his new wife has a right to know about this.

As the saying goes, the truth hurts…

And sometimes, it hurts A LOT.