Divorce is always hard, especially when children are involved.

What would you do if one of your parents tried to guilt you because the other parent provides you with a better life?

Would you agree and ask the other parent to help more, or would you realize it’s not their responsibility?

In the following story, a girl finds herself caught between her parents’ problems.

Let’s see what happens.

AITA for telling my dad, grandma and my dad’s wife that my mom never put me in the middle, they did?

My parents divorced when I (16f) was 3 and my brother Shane (18m) was 5.

Shane remembers them fighting a lot back then. I remember none of it.

What I do remember is my dad would always stay far away from mom and would sometimes skip things if mom was going to be present.

He’d tell me or Shane, or both of us, that he didn’t want to be mom’s friend, so thought it would be easier to stay away.

When I was 6 dad met Kim and within 4 months Kim and her daughter Lilah (now 13) moved in with him.

Divorce is usually the hardest on the kids.

Within the next 3 years, dad and Kim had my two half siblings, got married in between and Kim moved her mom in to care for her until she died.

So it was chaos.

Dad also lost his job and made less at his new one.

Shane and I were back and forth between mom and dad. We’d spend a week with mom and then a week with dad.

We hated going back then though because it was so chaotic.

Mom was the stable parent for us. She was able to afford to give us a good quality of life that dad struggled to provide.

This is usually where child support comes into play.

Mom paid for an extra curricular activity for me and Shane each. She made sure we always had enough supplies for school.

She bought us nice gifts (we had game consoles at mom’s and other stuff that we didn’t have at dad’s).

Over time as Lilah got a little bigger and so did our half siblings, dad and Kim started asking mom to send them money for us or to buy stuff for Lilah and our half siblings too.

Mom refused. Dad and Kim hated that.

They tried to say mom was okay with us suffering, and grandma especially said mom should be making sure we didn’t feel bad because we had more.

The kids should not be put in this position.

Shane and I never felt bad. We knew we had different things because our mom was mom and Kim was our half siblings and Lilah’s mom.

So, different families and different households too. I never felt guilty that we did so well with mom.

I never felt like she owed my half siblings or Lilah gifts or food or clothes.

Grandpa used to say him and grandma should do more since they were actually family and our mom wasn’t and I agree with that.

I know Shane does too.

Here’s where things got ugly.

A lot of stuff happened since, but a few months ago mom brought me and my two best friends to a concert.

Dad knew I was going and he told Kim and Lilah about it, knowing Lilah had wanted to go as well but they couldn’t afford it.

This became a really big deal. Lilah got so mad at me for it and my dad and Kim got mad at mom because I didn’t apologize to Lilah.

They said mom put me in the middle of divorce stuff.

Then, a couple of days ago they were talking about it with grandma and all three said mom made me feel bad by putting me (and Shane) in the middle and making us watch our other siblings suffer while we did so well.

Upset, she stood up for her mother.

Grandpa called them crazy.

I told them mom never put me in the middle, they did, and she never made me feel bad for having more because I never felt bad. I knew that comes with having different families.

They told me to stop defending mom. Grandpa told them to stop acting like Shane and I need to hate our mom because they do.

AITA?

Wow! The father and his wife crossed the line enough, but that grandma!

Let’s see what Reddit readers had to say about this story.

This person really puts it into perspective.

No sympathy for the father here, either.

This person points out how part of the situation could’ve been avoided.

And this person is proud of the grandpa!

The kids should not be involved in this issue, and the dad really needs to man up.

That poor kiddo.

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