The holidays often involve certain family traditions, like making gingerbread houses or baking cookies.

A lot of times these traditions wouldn’t exist without certain family members taking the lead.

That’s the situation in today’s story, where the cookie party doesn’t happen unless one woman preps the cookie dough ahead of time.

What happens when she can’t make it to this year’s cookie party?

Let’s see how the story unfolds…

WIBTA if i don’t make the cookies?

I 30F loves baking.

For the past 7 years i have been holding a baking day in december with my family at my grandma’s house.

I will pay for everything, do the prep and keep an eye on the cookies while in the oven.

Every year we will make around 5-6 kinds of cookies.

And it’s fine, we have tried to cut down to 3…but people got upset because they want their cookies!

(They got really upset)

She was the last person to find out when they were going to bake cookies.

When we are done baking, we split the cookies.

And people go home, and yeah we eat too at grandma’s, but last year she asked us to eat before coming over.

The problem is that this year my grandma set a date without me.

She told the date to everybody, and after that she told me.

Grandma has a pretty unreasonable request.

The thing is that it’s a day where i have to work, and can’t come?

And when my grandma found out, she asked if i could bake the cookies, so they did not have too? Or at least a few of them?

When my mom heard this, she asked me to make grandma find another day, because my mom knows that if i’m not there… there will be no cookies!

She does not want to bake cookies for her whole family.

My grandma will not change the date, and i will not spend time and money on cookies just so they all can sit and relax, and just do nothing?

While i bake for 5 households, they can’t even remember to bring a cookie jar every year.

So will i be the meanie for saying no, i don’t want to bake the cookies?

When grandma doesn’t want to change the date so i can be there?

Sidenote, we are a big family.

We are talking 16 people.

so when I’m baking… its big portions.

And I always make the cookie dough before our baking day, so it’s easy for us.

It seems like grandma should’ve asked her before setting the date since it sounds like there aren’t any cookies unless she is there.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story…

There’s a limit to generosity, and this is it.

Maybe grandma doesn’t want to host the party anymore.

Baking is pretty messy.

Her extended family doesn’t deserve her cookies.

Maybe her family doesn’t realize how much time and effort she puts into baking.

If she’s not there, there won’t be cookies.

Period.

If you liked that story, read this one about grandparents who set up a college fund for their grandkid because his parents won’t, but then his parents want to use the money to cover sibling’s medical expenses.