In most cases, when people break up or divorce, they will move into separate houses, but sometimes that can take time.

What would you do if your ex was still living with you after more than a year, and she wasn’t even paying rent?

That is the situation that the woman in this story is in, and she is feeling guilty that she wants to move into a different apartment without her ex, who would be left on her own.

Let’s read the whole story.

AITA for no longer wanting to allow my now ex partner of almost a year to stay at my apartment because she’s not currently stable enough to get a place of her own?

My ex gf (33F) and I (31F) first met in a whirlwind romance in May of 2023.

A few months into dating she fell on hard times and I offered to let her stay with me for a few months while she got on her feet.

This was a very generous offer.

I am an extremely independent person and love living on my own and having my own space is very important to me but I really cared for her and wanted to help at the time especially with the expectation that it would only be a few months.

However, a few months has now turned into 2 and a half years and we technically broke up almost a year ago.

Throughout her time here she’s had several jobs, however, the positions were seasonal and/or didn’t align with her morally so she quit.

When she first arrived I was of course not charging her rent as I was genuinely trying to help her get on her feet. However, after living with me rent free for almost a year I realized she probably wouldn’t have the means to move out on her own anytime soon so we began to go half on rent and expenses.

If she isn’t paying rent, she needs to be kicked out.

However, it only lasted maybe 5 months until we officially called it quits and she couldn’t afford to pay her half and save up to move out because she’s only been able to hold down a part time position for some time now.

So, she is still struggling.

I feel bad she is in this position still but my lease for this apartment is up in October and I planned to end it and start my solo journey as I am ready to move on with my life and start anew.

However, I am conflicted with what I know I deserve and desire (which is separate lives) and doing “what’s right.”

Her financial instability is her problem.

My ex has expressed that her financial instability makes her feel scared for her future, she fears she will end up homeless if I stop carrying the load for her as she doesn’t have any friends and she’s not close with her family.

She feels like because we are not toxic, have healthy communication and get along for the most part that she doesn’t see why I can’t just continue to help her out until she is stable enough to do so on her own.

She often gets emotional and upset about the reality of having to figure out her living situation in the next few months and reminds me that if it were her in my shoes she would continue to help her ex for as long as they needed.

I can fully understand her fear but it’s been almost 2 and a half years of me supporting her and I really need to know if AITA for no longer wanting to house my now ex partner of almost a year?

WIBTA?

She should have been kicked out the moment they broke up. Or, if not then, the moment she stopped paying rent. She is a parasite and will never move on until she is forced to.

Read on to see what the people in the comments on Reddit say about this.

I agree with this commenter. The ex is manipulating her.

This sums it up perfectly.

It sounds like the ex is too picky when it comes to getting jobs.

This person was in the same position as the ex in this story.

This commenter points out that the ex has had lots of time to get a job.

This woman will never be independent unless she is forced into it.

If you thought that was an interesting story, check out what happened when a family gave their in-laws a free place to stay in exchange for babysitting, but things changed when they don’t hold up their end of the bargain.