Financial situations between married couples can get tricky.

This man was prepared to buy a new car for the family, however, budget is tight as he is still paying off their. So his wife went to her parents and asked for help behind his back.

Check out the full story below.

AITA: In-laws giving money for a car

My wife and I have been married for 15 years, both in our late 30s.

We accumulated a large amount of consumer debt (about $50K) over the last few years on a variety of things.

One of our cars is 15 years old and needs a new engine so we have to buy something newer to replace it.

I make good money at my job and have been working to pay off all the debt slowly but surely and I’m about 30% of the way there. I hope to be completely done by the end of next year.

This man’s wife went to her parents to ask for some money for a car.

When we start looking at cars I told my wife the budget and she seemed unhappy with the options in that price range (roughly $15K).

I explained to her that it was only temporary and we just needed to keep this next car for a couple of years while we finished paying off some of this debt and I didn’t want to take on another large loan at this point.

Well, she then goes to her mom and dad and tells them that we can’t afford anything, or words to that effect and that we don’t have any money.

So they come in and tell her they will give us some money to help with the purchase. I told my wife that I didn’t want their money, that we are almost 40 years old and we just need to work through this on our own without taking her mom and dad’s money.

I also didn’t want to feel like I owed them something even if I technically didn’t.

He refused to accept their help and he felt betrayed.

Well that plea fell on deaf ears. Last night she told me that they are helping anyway and are going to give us $25K towards the purchase of a car. Of course they have to approve what we buy or no money.

I’m pretty upset by this. We are a fully functioning adult family with children. I have financially supported us for years on mostly my income and I have the means to continue doing so.

Yes, our financial situation from a savings perspective isn’t the greatest but the cash flow is there to afford a minimal car payment while still paying chunks of debt in order to help us moving forward.

I feel like my wife went behind my back and did this and it feels disrespectful to me as her husband that she would involve her parents to this extent by pleading poverty to them.

AITA for being upset with her in this situation?

Looks like wife and husband aren’t in the same page financially.

Let’s read other people’s take on this.

Here’s a simple solution.

A valid point from this user.

Something to think about.

This one offers some perspective.

And here’s a different opinion.

There’s nothing wrong with accepting help, but live within your means.

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