Marriage can be tricky, but one thing that’s really important in marriage, or any relationship, is communication. If you don’t communicate clearly, it can lead to misunderstandings, hurt feelings and a lot of drama.

In this story, one couple communicates, but not well. The husband hires a construction crew to build their new house, and he’s really annoyed that his wife keeps shares her opinions and suggestions about the project. It seems like he’d prefer it if she didn’t communicate her feelings about the project at all.

Meanwhile, his way of communicating with his wife isn’t very good. He tried to tell her how he felt, but he said it in a way that I know would make me upset.

Now, he’s wondering if he messed up. Spoiler alert: my opinion is yes. Keep reading to see if you agree.

AITA for telling my wife to leave the construction of our house to the men?

I’m building a new house, and she wants to be involved in every decision regarding the project, materials, finishes, etc.

She has no experience in construction and keeps asking silly questions and suggesting impractical ideas.

She also complains about the price of everything and wants to cut costs to the maximum, even if it compromises the quality or safety of the work.

She clearly doesn’t trust the professionals.

I’ve tried to explain to her that these things are complicated and that she should trust the professionals we’ve hired, but she doesn’t listen to me.

She thinks she knows more than them and believes they’re trying to deceive us or sell unnecessary things.

She also pressures me to negotiate with them or find cheaper suppliers.

I mean, I agree with this wife.

One day, I lost my patience and told her to leave the construction of our house to the men, as they know what they’re doing and she’s just getting in the way.

She became furious and called me ***ist, arrogant, and insensitive.

She said I don’t respect her opinion and that I want to do everything my way without considering her tastes and preferences.

She claimed that the house is ours, and she has the right to be involved in everything.

He’s wondering if he messed up.

I think she’s overreacting and being irrational.

I just want our house to be completed as soon as possible and in the best way possible.

I have nothing against her giving her opinion, but she needs to understand that not everything is possible or feasible. AITA?

Uh, yeah, dude. You messed up. Maybe he has a good point, but the way he said it was patronizing and sounded like she doesn’t know what she’s talking about just because she’s a woman. He needs to apologize.

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Let’s see if Reddit agrees.

Her opinion is just as valid as his.

Another person rephrased OP’s question.

Another person thinks he doesn’t respect this wife.

I completely agree.

A woman who works in construction weighs in.

I obviously don’t know what her questions or suggestions were or why he thought they were annoying, but he was clearly wrong to criticize his wife and imply that women need to stay out of construction projects. Uh, what?

If I were his wife, I’d be talking to a lawyer or a marriage counselor because their marriage is in trouble if he’s going to talk to her like that and think that it’s okay. What’s worse is that he doesn’t seem to think that his views are wrong.

He needs to actually listen to his wife and respect what she has to say. It’s good that she wants to be involved in the project. It’s her house too, after all. She needs to be happy with the way it turns out.

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