She Asked for a Quick Heads-Up Before Her Friend Picked Her Up—Then the Ride Was Suddenly Canceled
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Getting a ride from a friend usually comes with simple coordination, not a debate over whether texting “I’m outside” is somehow too much.
One woman asks her driver to message when she arrives, so would you see that as basic courtesy or treat it like an outrageous demand?
Instead of brushing it off, the driver turns the tiny request into the main event once everyone reaches the party.
Let’s see how this cold-night pickup became a full-blown rideshare grievance.
AITA if I asked someone who was giving me a ride to let me know when they’d arrived at my house?
Not long ago, a friend invited me and a bunch of other friends over for a get-together.
I’d never been to her house before, and it was in an area that I didn’t know, so I asked one of the other invitees (Alison) if she’d mind giving me a ride.
She said “Sure,” and on the night in question, she texted me to say she was on her way to my place.
It all started over an innocent comment.
I replied, “Great! Let me know when you’re outside, and I’ll come to meet you.”
A word of explanation – it was a very chilly night, and I didn’t want to just hang around outside waiting for her when I could stay indoors where it was warm.
So, I thought telling Alison that was reasonable.
She disagreed.
Alison began making a big deal out of it.
When we arrived at our friend’s house, I overheard Alison indignantly telling everyone “And then Shalamarr told me to let her know when I was outside her house, like I’m a freaking Uber driver! I’m not a freaking Uber driver!”
She repeated this several times, and every time she said “I’m not a freaking Uber driver!” her voice got more shrill.
People looked uncomfortable, and no one said anything (including me, which I now regret).
When it was time to leave, Alison said loudly, “(Other Friend’s Name), I think you should drive Shalamarr home.”
The other friend was glad to do it, fortunately, otherwise I would have had to call an Uber (heh).
AITA?
Wow! She sounds like some friend.
Let’s see what advice the folks over at Reddit have to offer her.
This person thinks she could’ve waited by the window.
For this person, it’s a normal thing to do.
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According to this reader, Alison is just too dramatic.
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Here’s some excellent advice.
Asking for a quick arrival text was practical, especially when the alternative was standing outside in the cold for no reason.
Alison took it personally, then repeatedly complained about feeling like an Uber driver in front of the entire group.
The awkward silence from everyone else said plenty, even before another friend stepped in to handle the ride home.
She was right about one thing, though: Uber drivers usually communicate better.
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