People who work from home may look all comfortable and available, but they’re still at work—just not physically.

But this man’s girlfriend thinks because he works from home, he is basically lounging and available to help with chores whenever she asks him to.

Welp, after she demanded his attention for the hundredth time while he was working, he ended up yelling at her to just let him work.

Does he owe her an apology?

Let’s find out.

AITA for shouting at my girlfriend because she wouldn’t let me work?

I (29 years old, male) work from home and finally blew up at my (30 years old, female) girlfriend today because she is incapable of giving me five minutes’ peace.

She is currently on gardening leave before starting another role in January and for most of the day, and I’m in my office working normal hours (9-6).

I thought she would understand that even if I’m at home—work is work.

This is a very valid need, and yet, his girlfriend doesn’t seem to understand.

I have tasks that need completing, meetings during the day and other jobs that require me to sit at my desk for most of the day.

For some reason, she uses these hours as prime time to bother me or distract me, and usually I help her with whatever she needs (after telling her nicely that I’m working), even though every request pierces through my ears like tinnitus.

But today I had enough.

“Love, I need help with this”

“Can you do this afterwards?”

“Don’t forget to do this”

“Make sure you clean this room afterwards”

“Can you put some laundry on?”

Yikes.

She probably shouts at me from across the apartment or from a different room about 30 times per day, and then it makes me feel guilty for not doing things around the house or helping her with tasks.

I try to tell her, “I will do x task when I have a chance”, or “I will do x later when I’m finished”, but then she gives me a two-minute grace period before doing the jobs under her breath.

He grew more and more frustrated and disturbed by her behavior.

I’m really busy ahead of Christmas and I told her this morning “love, can you leave me the **** alone for five minutes?” and now she’s upset and left the apartment to go for a walk.

Do I have a genuine reason to be upset?

Because it feels like I’m going to have to apologize for this situation now, when I made my feelings and boundaries clear many times.

I know that there is an imbalance in our relationship right now with only me working, and being at home is obviously boring all day, but is some basic adult awareness not needed from her side here?

AITA?

He could have phrased it differently, but she needs to picture him in an office—her behavior would be extremely out of place.

Let’s see what Reddit’s take is on this situation.

A reader shares their thoughts.

This commenter shares some wise advice.

I agree.

That’s a good question to ask her.

This person has a hot take.

Simple like that.

She doesn’t understand that “work from home” is still work.

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