March 21, 2025 at 12:35 pm

Man Orders Food Through Instacart, But His Older Brother Is Upset That He Wasn’t Asked If He Wanted Anything

by Jayne Elliott

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If you place an online order for something like groceries, is it a good idea to ask everyone who lives in your home if they want anything?

One man in today’s story seems to think so, but his younger brother thinks that’s ridiculous.

Let’s read all the details to see why Instacart is causing so much family drama.

AITA for only Instacarting for myself and not asking anyone else in my household if they needed anything?

In my household it’s me [27M], my parents [57F, 60M], and my brother [36M].

We all work full-time.

I decided to Instacart myself some items that I wanted.

His brother was upset when he found out.

My brother proceeds to tell me that I need to stop acting like a little boy and being selfish. I should’ve asked if anyone needed anything.

I told him, “I got items to make the protein smoothies I like. No one else in this household drinks them. And I did get us some more milk, aluminum foil, toothpaste, and freezer bags because I knew we were running low on those items. And I am on a budget right now.”

He said, “We could’ve sent you some money and I could’ve just took you to the store so you wouldn’t have to pay the Instacart fees.”

He explains why he doesn’t drive.

I don’t really drive due to anxiety issues, but I still try to get myself around via the bus or every now and then Uber.

I make the appropriate accommodations sometimes for groceries like Instacart for this reason.

However, I don’t really like depending on people for transportation because I feel like I am an adult and it’s my responsibility to get myself around.

I ended up telling my brother, “You don’t have to take me to the store and I don’t really want to be depending on you guys for transportation.”

His brother doesn’t seem to get it.

He ended up telling me, “Alright, drive me to the store right now.”

I said, “No.”

He then said, “Alright then, don’t talk like a grown up if you’re not ready to do grown up things.”

All in all, was I wrong for doing this?

His brother sounds like a jerk. Did his brother even want anything from the store, or is he just picking a fight?

Also, at 36, I think it’s time for his older brother to move out and grow up.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

It would’ve been nice to ask.

Screenshot 2025 03 04 at 9.48.57 AM Man Orders Food Through Instacart, But His Older Brother Is Upset That He Wasnt Asked If He Wanted Anything

This person is on her side.

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This person is on the brother’s side.

Screenshot 2025 03 04 at 9.50.24 AM Man Orders Food Through Instacart, But His Older Brother Is Upset That He Wasnt Asked If He Wanted Anything

It’s all about the delivery fee.

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They’re both too old to be living at home.

So there’s that.

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