A lot of couples argue about finances, and sometimes that starts when they’re dating.

What would you do if you were saving for a down payment on a mortgage, but your significant other wanted to go on an expensive beach vacation, just the two of you?

Would you take the vacation or keep saving your money?

The man in today’s story is facing this dilemma, and he’s worried his girlfriend will be upset if he doesn’t agree to the vacation.

Let’s read all the details.

WIBTA if I said no to going on a beach trip with my girlfriend even though I can afford it?

I (27M) have been dating my girlfriend (22F) for about 11 months.

She recently asked me to go with her on a beach vacation to Mazatlán, Sinaloa this October. It’s a yearly thing she does with her group of friends, and this time she wants me to go with her but just the two of us.

The trip is three nights, but the cost per person is about half of my monthly salary.

He doesn’t want to spend that much on a vacation.

Now, I can technically afford it, but I’ve spent most of my life just scraping by, so even when I have money, I’m really cautious about how I use it.

I’ve been saving for a mortgage down payment, and blowing that much cash on a short trip that I’m not hyped about feels like a big hit.

I’ve never been to the beach, and honestly, the current violence situation in Sinaloa also makes me uneasy.

He knows his girlfriend will be disappointed if he doesn’t go.

She’s a student, but her family covers all her expenses, so for her this kind of trip is no big deal.

I’ve expressed my discomfort with spending that much cash without necessarily saying ‘No’, but I know she will be disappointed and will probably think I’m being overly frugal.

So, WIBTA if I said no to this trip, even though I technically have the money?

I feel torn between being financially responsible and not wanting to seem like I’m not prioritizing our relationship.

That’s a lot of money to spend on a short vacation, but he’s probably right that his girlfriend won’t understand his reasoning.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this story.

Maybe they can compromise.

It’s too much money to spend on a weekend getaway.

Communication is key.

He needs to explain the situation to his girlfriend.

“No” is a complete sentence.

She may be disappointed, but hopefully she’ll understand.

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