Being the oldest sibling comes with loads of responsibilities.

Would you be upset if you had to act like a parent to your younger siblings?

This woman has been playing second mom to her young siblings for years.

Her mom hinted about her having her own kids someday, and she snapped back with a comment that really hurt her mom’s feelings.

Was she too harsh? Check out the full story and find out.

AITA for telling my mom she’s the reason I don’t want kids?

I’m 19 and still live at home as I’m saving for school.

My mom has this thing. It’s where she keeps hinting that I’ll give her grandkids someday.

Like, it’s not even subtle. She’s been saying it since I was like 16!

This woman told her mom she’s not having kids.

Anyway, we were eating dinner last night.

That includes me, my mom, stepdad, and my two younger siblings (11 and 7).

She went, “You know, when you have your own kids, you’ll understand.”

I said, kind of laughing, “I’m not having kids.”

She alluded to her being her siblings’ second mom.

She looked at me like I’d just insulted her cooking.

“Oh, come on. You’ll change your mind. You’d be such a good mom.”

And I said, “Yeah, probably because I already was one.”

Dead. Silence.

Her mom didn’t know what to say.

My stepdad looked confused.

The kids were too busy with their food.

But my mom just froze.

I didn’t say it to be mean, but I’ve basically been a second mom to my siblings since I was 10.

She played the mom role when her mom wasn’t around.

My mom worked a lot and also went out a lot, and I’d be the one doing homework with them and feeding them.

I’d put them to bed.

And I even went to parent-teacher nights alone when she forgot.

That’s why she doesn’t want kids of her own.

I never really had a normal teen life.

I didn’t go out, didn’t have time for friends or hobbies.

I love my siblings, but I didn’t choose to be a third parent at age 12.

And now, I’m finally close to having my own life, so the thought of doing that all over again is just an absolute no.

Her mom was hurt and talked to her.

Later, my mom pulled me aside and told me what I said was “hurtful.”

She called it “dramatic.”

She said that I “should be grateful for the responsibility” because it “made me mature.”

She said I embarrassed her.

Her stepdad thinks she should apologize.

My stepdad thinks I owe her an apology because I said it in front of the kids.

But I honestly don’t feel bad.

I didn’t lie. I didn’t scream or insult her. I just said something I’ve been feeling for years.

There’s nothing wrong with letting her mom know how she feels.

Let’s check out the comments of other people on Reddit.

This person sides with her.

This person suggests looking it up.

Here’s an honest opinion from this person.

This user says it’s her problem, not yours.

Finally, here’s a valid point from this user.

Hearing the truth could hurt sometimes.

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