Planning a wedding relies heavily on careful planning, but sometimes chaos gets in the way.

When his cousin’s messy invite process led him to unknowingly schedule a conflicting vacation, one man suddenly found himself cast as public enemy number one with the rest of his family.

Read on to find out what Redditors thought of this predicament.

AITA for not attending my cousins wedding as a groomsman

I (21M) have been invited to my cousin’s wedding.

I was asked to be a groomsman months beforehand but received no formal invitation.

So soon things became rather complicated.

I then booked a holiday, only to discover weeks later that the wedding would take place during that time.

He soon realized he missed the invite altogether.

It also turns out I was sent a Facebook invite.

This was the only invitation with a date that I received, but I don’t use Facebook, so I must have cleared the notifications weeks or even months ago without realizing.

Now he’s faced with a dilemma.

I can’t afford or am not able to change my flights, but I feel so bad for missing it, especially since I am a groomsman.

But he’s worried about what might happen if he misses.

Personally, I’m not that desperate to go as I don’t see my family often anyway, but it’s giving me a lot of anxiety.

Saying no feels like I am committing a great evil.

AITA for declining?

His cousin made his bed, so now he’ll just have to lay in it.

What did Reddit think?

This invitation strategy was just plain irresponsible.

This commenter thinks the situation was totally out of this would-be groomsman’s hands.

This situation should serve as an important lesson for the wedding organizers.

People still have to live their lives, even when asked to be in wedding parties.

He’s not in the wrong for missing an event he wasn’t properly informed about.

At the end of the day, it’s unfair to expect him to rearrange his life over poor communication.

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