Imagine getting an invitation for a family event, but when you get there, you realize you’re expected to do a bunch of chores before the party starts. Would you do the chores, or would you decline?

This man was invited to a casual family BBQ hosted by his ex-wife’s stepfather, but when he got there, he was asked to help do some cleaning.

He wasn’t dressed for cleaning. He was dressed for a party!

Now, he’s wondering if he handled the situation well or not.

Read the full story below.

AITA for leaving a “family” BBQ when asked to help in the garden?

On Thursday, I was invited to a family BBQ at my ex-wife’s stepfather’s house scheduled for today.

I brought BBQ sausages and prepared a homemade pasta salad and potato salad.

As it was a good weather, I dressed in summery clothes and shoes, as did my GF who was also invited.

This man was told to help clean the area first.

When we got there, we were told that we each had to help first.

Like clear the patio of dog mess (my dogs were at home) and clear a space in the garden, so that my ex-wife’s stepfather could put a greenhouse there next week.

He declined.

I told them I wasn’t dressed for yard work and that I had just been expecting conversation and drinks/food on the patio.

So I declined to help.

Instantly, everyone made it clear to me that I wasn’t wanted if I wasn’t going to help.

Now, everyone in the social gathering was calling him names.

So, my GF and I left and found a nice country pub for dinner instead.

I’ve got back home now and kids of the adults who were there are now calling me names on social media.

They are stating that I’m scared of hard work.

He’s wondering if he should have just stuck up with them.

Did I do the right thing after being lured there under false pretenses?

Or should I have stayed and potentially ruined a good set of clothes just to appease them?

AITA?

He thought he was a guest at a party not free help.

Let’s check out what others have to say about this on Reddit.

This person shares a similar story.

This person makes a valid point.

That’s rude and entitled behavior, says this person.

This user thinks they did the right thing.

And finally, here’s an honest opinion.

Classic bait and switch.

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