January 15, 2026 at 7:55 am

Woman Has To Miss Her Boyfriend’s Work Holiday Party For A Medical Procedure, But Instead Of Being Supportive He Asked Her To Reschedule It

by Benjamin Cottrell

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Health has a way of forcing people to slow down, even when life keeps moving at full speed.

So when one woman found herself needing a last-minute medical procedure right before her boyfriend’s big work event, she was surprised when her boyfriend’s first reaction was to treat her health needs like a burden.

You’ll want to keep reading for this one.

AITA For Missing My Bfs Work Party for an appointment?

My bf (23M) and I (23F) have been together long distance 2 years, in total 4 years together.

Every year his work has this big holiday party at the CEO’s house, which to him is a big deal (rightfully so), where he gets to bring a plus one.

Last year I went and he wants me to come again.

But this year brought some unexpected bumps in the road with her health.

This past year, however, I’ve been having some abnormal stomach issues and finally have to have a colonoscopy procedure for the day after this holiday party.

I found out the date after scheduling the procedure.

Her boyfriend wasn’t as understanding as she might have hoped.

When I told him I had this going on and I wouldn’t be able to go, he asked if I could reschedule the colonoscopy?

AITA for not wanting to?

One of these obligations is clearly more important than the other.

What did Reddit think?

She takes her health seriously, but her partner should too.

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It’s clear to this commenter that this boyfriend doesn’t have his priorities straight.

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This appointment isn’t exactly something that can wait.

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This user also urges her to keep the appointment.

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She chose the responsible path, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

The right partner wouldn’t make her feel guilty for taking care of her health.

If you liked that story, read this one about grandparents who set up a college fund for their grandkid because his parents won’t, but then his parents want to use the money to cover sibling’s medical expenses.

Benjamin Cottrell | Assistant Editor, Internet Culture

Benjamin Cottrell is an Assistant Editor and contributing writer at TwistedSifter, specializing in internet culture, viral social dynamics, and the moral complexities of online communities. He brings a highly analytical, editorial voice to his reporting on workplace conflicts, malicious compliance, and interpersonal drama, with a specific focus on nuanced stories that lack an obvious villain.

As a published author of rhetorical criticism, Benjamin leverages his academic background in human communication to dissect and elevate viral social media threads. Instead of simply summarizing events, he provides readers with balanced, deep-dive commentary into why the internet reacts the way it does. In addition to his cultural reporting, he is an experienced fine art photography essayist and video game reviewer.

When he isn’t analyzing the latest viral debates, Benjamin is usually chipping away at his extensive video game backlog, hunting down the best new restaurants, or out exploring the city with a camera in hand.

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