When you are married, you will generally do most activities together, but sometimes you have to do things separately.

What would you do if your husband was at his friend’s house, and you wanted to go to a movie with your sister and your kids?

That is what happened to the wife in this story, so she told him she was going, and then after the fact, he got upset that she went without him.

AITA for going to the movies with my daughters and sister without my husband because he’s always with his friend?

My husband and I have been married for 12 years, and have two girls (11 and 8).

This is very good to hear.

Just off the bat I want to clarify there are no major issues, we love each other dearly.

Last year one of his friends from when he was in school got posted to a base in our city.

Friends come and go. And sometimes come back.

I’d very rarely seen him before (he was at our wedding and I think that’s it) but he was my husband’s best friend back then at least as per my husband.

Since he’s been posted here, my husband has been stopping at the base on his way back from work fairly regularly (like twice or sometimes even three times on weekdays) and occasionally even on a weekend.

Good, she told him that it was becoming a problem.

I’ve let it go for the most part but have told him occasionally that he’s out too late too often me and the girls are starting to miss him, he doesn’t go for a few days, then it starts again.

It also seems like he’s made friends with others there too which isn’t helping matters I suppose.

The husband needs to at least improve his communication.

Also, another issue is that on the days hes there, there’s ambiguity on whether he’ll eat dinner there at the mess or I should leave some out for him from ours, and he’s been disappointed a few times when he comes home, but thats on our poor text communication, so maybe not relevant.

Yesterday, my sister was over, and he was at the base.

Sounds like a great idea.

My sister suggested we all go to the movies to see Avatar and my girls really wanted to so we went.

I called to let him know that and he seemed ok with it, and we had a good time.

It seems like it was just a nice way to say she wishes he could have come too.

When he was back, he asked how it was, I said it was good I wished he was there and he seemed annoyed and said how could he have since I sprung it on him in a phone call with others around, otherwise he would’ve wanted to go with us on the weekend.

I said if he’d said that, we wouldn’t have gone, and he just said to drop it but seemed disappointed.

AITA?

No, she didn’t do anything wrong. It sounds like he is feeling guilty, but also doesn’t want to stop going to see his friend. They need to get on the same page before it causes any real issues in the relationship.

Read on to see what the people in the comments have to say about this.

Make it make sense.

It would definitely bother me.

This commenter puts it perfectly.

Yeah, he has some serious double standards.

Yup, he would have come if he wanted to.

Is this guy really just with his friends?

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