Planning a wedding is a lot of work, and in some cases, the hardest part is getting your guests to understand what they need to do.

What would you do if you put up a very detailed website with everything your guests needed to know, but it seemed like many of them ignored it completely?

That is what the bride in this story is dealing with, and she is feeling frustrated because she tried to make things as easy as possible for these people.

Personally, I think she just needs to let it go and let the guests figure it out on their own. Read through the full story below and see if you agree.

I swear some guests just don’t read

Our wedding is this coming Saturday and we are buzzing around. Excited and anxious but everything is mostly ready.

Everything a guest needs to know is in one place.

I am, however, increasingly perplexed by how a lot of guests handle any sort of practical information.

I made a very clear and informative website a year ago (took me A LOT OF TIME) with everything they need to know.

Adresse, transportation solutions, lodging, program, utilities, dietary restrictions etc…

Everything seems like it is going well.

I was worried older guests might struggle with it, but surprisingly, zero issues on their part.

No one asked me any questions, I double checked with them and they all were “ya we saw this and that on the website, seems fine”. So, I take that for a sign that the website is legible.

This is very generous.

I know that traveling to a wedding is always a chore, and we have a lot of people coming from all over the country.

To compensate, we are offering free lodging on site for EVERYONE the whole weekend, and I have presented various transportation solutions for people to organise.

How do people not know what is going on?

To be honest we have done our very best for it to be as smooth as possible for everyone, we told them that we don’t expect money or gifts, we just want them to be there.

Cue today. We are D-4. I receive messages upon messages from people being absolutely LOST like “where are we sleeping? – Is it in X city ? – Is there a train station nearby ?”

This would get frustrating.

I have been sending back “it’s all on the website” at least 13 times in the past 2 days. And it’s all young people.

This website has been sent and available for pretty much a year now. The RSVP was on it, they answered it, so I know they have used it and know it exists.

Did they do no planning at all?

People are discovering right now that the lodging is free, like, were they expecting to think about where to sleep and look for hotels less than a week before the event?

I admit I enjoy the sudden relief on their face once I tell them it’s free, but I can’t help but worry, what was your plan if it wasn’t??

Everything should be so easy, but people still can’t figure it out.

Fortunately, most people that need to travel to come have been cautious and planned their trip, but even for the people that live in our city, it’s still either a 1h drive or a 1h30 train trip, and needing someone to pick them up from the station.

I have provided car and train itinaries and a carpool sheet on the website for people to organize themselves.

Just tell them to figure it out themselves.

A few people used these tools but there’s like, roughly 10 guests that don’t have cars and either are too late to get a seat in a carpool or decided to book train tickets without even telling us.

For example, I have a guest arriving at the train station at 10 in the morning the day of (we won’t be there until 3PM!!).

As if they won’t have other things to worry about.

She booked her ticket weeks ago and just, never told us. Heck, I wouldn’t even know if I hadn’t asked her this morning how she was planning to come (gut feeling lol).

I asked how she expected us to pick her up and she was like “eeeer I don’t really know, I guess I’d call you when I arrive?” GIRL

This is exactly what she wanted to avoid.

I am now making rounds amongst all our guests to make sure everyone has their transportation planned, and cramming people into my family’s cars last minute.

Exactly what I wanted NOT to do by providing as many tools as possible for guests to organize themselves in autonomy, as adults (all guests are 30+ years old, mind you).

Not having blankets is kind of weird.

And I will not even touch on other matters like dresscode (there is none, they can come in their PJs if they want, just 2 simple colors to avoid, already too difficult for some people) and program (“so you say the ceremony is at 4PM that means I can arrive at 4:30 right ?”).

Also we have written IN BIG LETTERS that the lodging is free but people need to bring their sleeping bag/plaid/blankets because beds don’t have blankets.

She is going above and beyond to communicate with everyone.

This has been written, said, repeated, written again, for more than a year now.

Five days ago I send EVERYONE a PDF with all the informations again.

At this point, they just need to let people figure it out on their own.

Today Fiancé reminds it again to some guests (gut feeling x2) and lo and behold, total surprise, absolute shock, people have never heard of this and are panicking because they don’t have any covers to bring.

We were already planning to bring all the extra covers and blankets we have just in case, but I don’t know if we’ll have enough.

People just don’t think.

I know transportation and lodging is always an issue, but like… Why did you RSVP Yes without even checking where the event was?

Without reading the bright red “VERY IMPORTANT INFORMATION” page I had carefully put in front of you?

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Her dad is very wise.

I think we’ve been doing our best to be flexible and arranging, but I can’t do it if people literally don’t read what I send then. This is, tbh, a bit infuriating.

My father told me like 2 years ago “you have to treat guests like children, always assume they are lost and need a hand.”

In the end, things will be fine.

And I brushed him off, but I feel like he was right. I’m obviously a little bit stressed right now so the need to vent is high, but I’m still excited to see all of them lol.

And hopefully they’ll be too tired and drunk to get cold lmao!!

Everything is stressful and difficult, but it sounds like they did everything they possibly could to make it easy on people.

Let’s see what the people in the comments have to say about this situation.

There are plenty of options for transportation.

College students are the same way.

This is not a bad idea.

Her dad really is spot on.

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Not buying a gift should be so easy.

At some point, you have to stop holding people’s hands. Let them figure it out on their own.

If they don’t make it to the wedding, that is on them.