Wife Shares Her Home Renovation Ideas With Her Husband, But He Shoots Down Every Idea And Tells Her He’s In Charge
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Imagine buying a house with your spouse to fix up and sell. Would you think of this project house as a team effort where you make decisions together and have an equal say, or would you think one of you would take the lead?
In this story, a husband and wife are in this situation, and the husband has proclaimed himself the boss. He shoots down his wife’s ideas and even makes fun of them. She’s fed up and walked away from the project, but she’s wondering if she’s overreacting.
I think she might not be reacting strongly enough.
Keep reading to see if you agree.
AIO? Husband said that he’s the boss on a project we’re working on, and if I can’t get onboard, I can leave. So I did.
My husband and I have been renovating and decorating a house full-time since January. This is our 4th house in the past 3 years, and this has never happened before.
We did have a conversation that he’s taking the lead on this project. We’re in the last 10%, but the entire time he has been shooting down my ideas.
Every single idea I have had gets turned down or extensively questioned. While the handyman we hired gets celebrated for his idea.
Any idea that was approved basically needed an excel sheet and a PowerPoint to get approved. Once the approved project is finished, he likes it.
Her husband is being unreasonable.
As an example, I wanted to put a free 40” tv in the master bedroom, and he literally said “no, the other bedrooms might get jealous”.
I am significantly more handy than my husband.
We were talking the other day, and he shot down another one of my ideas and I gave some pushback and he said, “I’m the boss. If you don’t like it, than maybe we shouldn’t work together.”
And I said, “okay”. And left.
She’s done.
It’s been about a week now of him working on the house by himself.
I am never going to that house again. If he doesn’t want my help, that’s fine.
I am of the mindset that while he is lead on this project, my ideas are still valid. I also don’t much appreciate an “I’m the captain now” from my spouse.
Am I overreacting?
I’m assuming they’re flipping a house to sell and not renovating a house to live in. If this is a business and the husband insists on being the boss, let him. I don’t blame her for walking away. If this is a house they’re going to live in, she needs to have an equal say.
I’m kind of wondering why she’s still married to him if he shoots down all her ideas.
Let’s see how Reddit responded to this story.
This is a weird thing to say. Maybe he was trying to be funny.
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Has she taken the lead on other projects?
Assuming she has taken the lead on other projects, this is a good question.
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This person says to let him fail.
There’s no point in wasting time offering help when the help isn’t even wanted.
I like the idea of both of these spouses taking on a separate home renovation project at the same time. They could make it like a competition and see whose project turns out better. They may not be able to agree on the answer, but at least they’d both get to take the lead instead of arguing.
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