Daughter Finally Pushes Back After Years Of Watching Her Father Praise Her Brother’s Successes While Treating Her Own Achievements Like They Don’t Matter
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Family favoritism gets harder to ignore when expectations suddenly involve your wallet.
A 25-year-old woman has built her own life independently while watching her dad consistently celebrate and support her older brother more.
Now that she is doing well, he casually starts talking about the vacations and cars she might someday buy for him.
Check out the full drama.
AITA for telling my dad to pay for his own holidays
My (25F) dad (64M) has always favored my brother (29M), which has been clear in how he supports him and celebrates his successes.
I could go on for days with many examples, but here’s a pretty big one:
When my brother gets good news, my dad gets emotional and often teary-eyed.
But when she has good news…
In contrast, when I graduated university and hosted my dad abroad, he whispered to my mom that he regretted coming and he wished he stayed home because he thought the dinner was too expensive ($150 for 5 people), our bed was uncomfortable, and our fridge smelled of kimchi.
That comment really stung, especially because he didn’t even say this to me directly. Rather, I overheard him as I was about to fall asleep.
She doesn’t think her brother deserves half the praise he gets so easily.
For context, my brother is lazy and only got his current job with help from my parents, while I moved out at 21, built an independent life, and never asked for financial help.
She’s been much more independent with her life.
Now, as I’m working on a business with my partner, my dad said, “If you ever want to gift us a holiday or a car, don’t feel like you need to spend too much money.”
He often assumes we’ll pay for him.
But this time, she proved his assumption wrong.
AITA for telling him, “You can pay for your own holiday, you’ve got a job”?
Overachieving daughter, golden-child brother: a tale as old as time.
What did Reddit think?
After the way this dad has treated her, he’s SOL here.
This user offers words of solidarity.
Sometimes it’s best to simply not engage.
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Doing it all independently only makes success that much more satisfying.
She told her dad he could pay for his own vacations after years of feeling like the less-valued child despite being far more independent.
Redditors overwhelmingly backed her, especially since her dad has a stable income, owns multiple homes, and still seems comfortable expecting gifts from her.
I guess being the overlooked child does not come with a complimentary travel-rewards program.
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