In-laws, y’all. Sigh. Love them or hate them, most of us don’t have much choice other than learning to grin and bear it.

Or at least, doing our best.

This man has a mother and a wife who can’t stand each other.

My mom and my wife do not get along.

That is actually an understatement.

They can hardly manage to be in the same room, but we get along great with the rest of the family as does my mom, and neither is willing to sit out of family stuff.

His wife began bringing crochet to take a break at his mother’s house.

My wife does get overwhelmed by my mom and everyone tends to gather around my mom, so our therapist suggested that she bring something she can do when she needs a break, so she has been bringing crochet.

She didn’t like that, but he held firm.

My mom got annoyed by this and said it was rude and something a five year old would do, and said if she ever brought something to our house and tried to go into the other room and ignore us, we would raise h—.

To be fair that is kind of true.

My wife is really big on manners but doesn’t always uphold the standards she holds my mom to, so I told my mom that wasn’t true.

I joked my mom could learn how to crochet (because none of her hobbies are something you can bring to someone else’s house)

When she brought her own hobby to their house and made a huge mess, he threw her out.

Recently we hosted a family get together and my mom had a large bag when she showed up.

I honestly didn’t think anything of it.

We were all outside and my mom casually told me she needed a break, so I said that was perfectly fine. See no double standard, she can go inside and chill.

My uncle later went in to get a beer and came out laughing and said I need to see what my mom is doing. My wife and I ran inside and my mom was working on an art project at our coffee table. She had resin, glitter, beads, shells, and my wife lost it and began screaming.

My mom said we were being hypocrites and she was doing exactly what my wife did, her hobby is just messier. I told her to get out, cussed at her, and said she was banned. She said ok and then told us the glitter on the floor isn’t her fault, her husband did that.

I told her to get out and never come back.

She got glitter and tiny beads on the rug, and resin on the table.

Now his family has banned him from their homes.

My aunt and uncle defended her and said I was being unfair and my wife is super rude to bring crochet to family stuff. My aunt said if my mom is banned from our house, we are banned from hers and I can’t go to Thanksgiving.

My cousins tried to defend me but my aunt was serious. Even my cousins after the fact said it was kind of funny and not that big of a deal.

Previously we did get mad at my mom for trying to remove herself from situations. She also calls my mom out every time she is rude, but to be honest can be pretty rude to my mom as well. She also got mad my mom wouldn’t eat her cooking and called her a toddler, but went to my mom’s feast of seven fishes on Christmas eve and was gagging because she hates seafood.

Biggest blowout was probably when my wife got mad at my mom for jumping into some guy’s arms and kissing him, and then later that night sat on my lap in front of everyone and my mom was like what the heck.

My wife totally missed the point and was like are you jealous because I took your son?

My mom didn’t talk to us for a while after that one and almost skipped out wedding.

I bet Reddit is just going to have a field day with this one.

The top comment says separate holidays would be best for everyone.

This person thinks mom is more to blame, though.

And this commenter thinks the whole thing sounds exhausting.

They think it all sounds difficult, to be honest.

This person changed their view and turned on the wife.

This family is a hot mess.

It does sound like he’s married a younger, but not saner, version of his mother.

If you liked that post, check out this story about a guy who was forced to sleep on the couch at his wife’s family’s house, so he went to a hotel instead.