February 20, 2025 at 1:49 pm

Wife Tried To Buy Her Husband A Thoughtful Anniversary Gift, But Confusion Over An Extra Gift Card Left The Husband Feeling Like She Cheaped Out

by Benjamin Cottrell

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When it comes to gift-giving between couples, unclear expectations can lead to hurt feelings.

What was intended as a loving anniversary gesture sparked a bitter debate over whether one party cheaped out.

You’ll want to read on for this one.

AITA for keeping a gift card I received when purchasing a gift for someone else?

For our wedding anniversary, I bought my husband a $200 rangefinder.

The store was running a promotion where you’d get a $50 gift card with the purchase.

My husband knew about the deal, so when I gave him the gift, he asked where the gift card was.

The wife was quick to explain her reasoning.

Since you couldn’t use the gift card on the original purchase, I used it to buy him a Christmas gift that he won’t get until December.

He said it left an “icky taste in his mouth” because when questioned about the amount spent, I told him I spent $215.

But he thinks it only counts as $165 because of the gift card.

She tries to explain further.

For context, my card was charged $214.99 for the rangefinder.

I explained that I used the gift card toward a separate $215 Christmas gift, so technically, I’ve only spent $165 on Christmas so far.

His past directives said one thing.

Here’s where I’m confused: When I asked him for additional gift ideas, he told me I had spent enough.

But later, he said he was expecting to get the $50 gift card with the rangefinder, and that’s why he originally said I didn’t need to get him anything else.

For our anniversary, he got me a necklace (on sale for $190) and a Lululemon bag for $40.

Now the wife is left questioning everything.

Now I’m feeling like crap, and I don’t know if I did something wrong or if I’m overthinking it.

AITA?

Is gift giving always meant to be this transactional?

Let’s see what Reddit had to say.

For a lot of people, it’s the thought that counts, but clearly not for this couple.

Source: Reddit/AITA

This husband needs to take his sky-high expectations down several notches.

Source: Reddit/AITA

Perhaps a more thorough explanation could set this couple back on the right path.

Source: Reddit/AITA

But ultimately, the husband’s heart is still in the wrong place here.

Source: Reddit/AITA

The real issue here was this couple’s mismatching expectations.

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