July 30, 2026 at 11:15 am

“You’re Excluding People”: Homeowner Under Fire for Refusing to Invite Neighborhood HOA Busybody to Her Yard

by Jayne Elliott

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Imagine living in a house that is near an HOA. You’re not part of the HOA, but you’re close enough to know all of the drama that goes on in that neighborhood. If you knew that there was one particular person who liked to call out her neighbors on minor HOA violations so that they get huge fines, would you mind your own business or call her out on her nonsense?

In this story, one homeowner is in this situation, and she decides to exclude the awful neighbor from her backyard BBQ. Now, some of the neighbors are calling her a bully.

Are they right, or was excluding the neighbor the right thing to do?

Let’s read the whole story to decide.

AITA for not inviting the neighborhood snitch or the HOA board to our neighborhood BBQ?

There’s around 10 houses in my neighborhood of 120 that are not in the HOA, mine included.

We (or previous owners) were smart enough to not join the HOA. As a result, i am able to make extensions and I have a pool, which I host neighborhood parties occasionally.

My HOA is one of the worst HOAs, constantly fining people hundreds of dollars for parking violations, painting their fences the wrong shades of brown, wrong color curtains, having 2 flags etc.

They’re not the worst HOA but they’re bad.

Meet Jessica.

We also got a bad neighbor, Jessica, who likes to go around and snap photos of people’s violations and then post it on the next-door app to shame them. She prides herself in this thinking it makes the neighborhood better when she shames the Smiths for having a fence thats 2 inches too high, or the Johnsons for having light brown door instead of a dark brown door.

Jessica is a freaking awful, she’s probably cost neighbors thousands of dollars in fees or forcing them to renovate.

I absolutely lost my mind when Jessica posted in the next door app about how Mrs Jenson (85 year old woman, currently having serious medical issues) has a lawn thats a couple inches too high. She obviously can’t mow the lawn and was too busy to notice.

The HOA then fined her 500 dollars.

Serves her right!

I made a post in the next-door app about the next-door app saying that the suburban jerks on the HOA nor Jessica were invited to my BBQ at my house.

Jessica went on a ran saying how much of a angel she is and how she protects the neighborhood doing her duty.

And I told her she’s a low life scumbag busybody and is a pathetic loser with nothing better to do.

OP didn’t back down.

A couple people said I was bullying and excluding her and like 4 of her friends are “boycotting” my party and hosting their own party.

The party happened and nobody else showed up to theirs and ours was a blast.

She apparently cried over it.

Why invite someone you hate to your party? That wouldn’t make sense. Why would you want to go to a party where you know you’re not welcome? That wouldn’t make sense either.

Let’s see how Reddit responded to this story.

Keep in mind that this took place in 2020.

2026 07 29 at 6.29.04 PM You’re Excluding People: Homeowner Under Fire for Refusing to Invite Neighborhood HOA Busybody to Her Yard

One person rants about their own HOA.

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She sure did!

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This person thinks everyone messed up.

2026 07 29 at 6.29.57 PM You’re Excluding People: Homeowner Under Fire for Refusing to Invite Neighborhood HOA Busybody to Her Yard

I don’t think it was wrong for OP to exclude Jessica from the party, but she didn’t have to blast her on social media. She could’ve just not invited her. If she’s such a busybody, she would’ve found out that she wasn’t invited.

If you’re mean to your neighbors, don’t expect them to be nice to you.

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Jayne Elliott | Contributing Writer, Life & Drama

Jayne Elliott is a contributing writer and editor for TwistedSifter specializing in human interest stories, internet culture, and family dynamics. With over 12 years of editorial experience in digital publishing, Jayne excels at analyzing complex online communities and transforming viral social debates into thoughtful, highly engaging narratives.

Rather than simply aggregating internet drama, Jayne brings a sharp, empathetic editorial eye to everyday dilemmas. She has a unique talent for unpacking the nuances of pop culture and online conflicts, providing readers with relatable, well-researched commentary.

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