August 11, 2026 at 9:46 pm

Grandmother Says HOA Discriminated Against Her After She Was Kicked Out of the Pool With Her Grandkids

by Heather Hall

Woman sitting by a pool watching her grandkids

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HOA rules can become a real problem when they make it harder for families to use the amenities they’re paying for.

One grandmother ran into that after supervising her teenage grandkids at the community pool.

She stayed outside the water because they’re strong swimmers, but a board member insisted she had to get in with them.

When she refused, he ordered the entire family to leave.

Frustrated, she filed a discrimination complaint, only to have the agency refuse the case.

Keep reading to see what happened next.

I filed a complaint at Division of Civil Rights for Familial Discrimination

I live in an HOA with nasty board members.

I was sitting on the ledge of the pool, supervising and observing my grandkids, who are teenage deep-water swimmers.

A board member said that, as per the bylaws, I must enter the pool. I said that, as per Red Cross guidelines, deep-water swimmers should be supervised from outside the pool. He ordered my grandkids and me to leave the pool.

I requested that this rule be modified to accommodate inexperienced and deep-water swimmers, and my request was ignored.

Unfortunately, her complaint was rejected.

Under the Fair Housing Act (FHA), an HOA cannot discriminate against families with children (“familial status”) by enforcing overly restrictive, singling-out pool rules.

While the U.S. Department of Housing and Urban Development (HUD) allows for rules requiring adult supervision for young children, requiring a parent or caregiver to physically enter the water with them is generally considered overly restrictive and discriminatory.

Overly Restrictive Impact: Mandating that a parent go into the pool essentially prohibits parents who don’t swim, or parents supervising multiple children, from using the facility.

I filed a complaint with the Division of Civil Rights, and they refused to accept the case. Help!

Eek! It’s easy to see both sides, but it would be interesting to read the actual law.

Let’s check out what the folks over at Reddit know about it.

Here’s a good starting point.

HOA Board 3 Grandmother Says HOA Discriminated Against Her After She Was Kicked Out of the Pool With Her Grandkids

According to this reader, she needs to read the bylaws.

HOA Board 2 Grandmother Says HOA Discriminated Against Her After She Was Kicked Out of the Pool With Her Grandkids

Well, it seems like they could’ve just said that then.

HOA Board 1 Grandmother Says HOA Discriminated Against Her After She Was Kicked Out of the Pool With Her Grandkids

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As this comment explains, that’s not how a board works.

HOA Board Grandmother Says HOA Discriminated Against Her After She Was Kicked Out of the Pool With Her Grandkids

In cases like this, it’s always best to do your own research.

HOA rules can be confusing, and just because the board says something is required doesn’t necessarily mean they’re right.

Since the complaint didn’t go anywhere, she should get a copy of the actual rule and see exactly what it says.

Then, if it still seems unreasonable, talking to an attorney who handles HOA issues may be the best next step.

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Heather Hall | Contributing Writer, Life & Drama

Heather Hall is a contributing writer for TwistedSifter specializing in internet culture, workplace conflict, and viral customer service stories. With over a decade of editorial experience in digital publishing, Heather excels at curating trending online discussions and providing insightful commentary on the daily dramas that capture the internet's attention.

Since beginning her career in 2011, she has developed deep expertise in SEO-driven digital content, having written for a wide array of publications covering lifestyle, business, and travel. At TwistedSifter, Heather focuses on synthesizing complex social media threads into engaging, highly readable narratives that highlight the human element of viral news.

When she isn’t analyzing the latest internet discourse, Heather is a dedicated mother of three sons who takes family gaming nights entirely too seriously—whether she is dominating in Mario Kart, exploring The Legend of Zelda, or jumping into Roblox.

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