She Found A Mobile Vet To Help Her Cat Pass Peacefully At Home, But Her Spouse Thinks The Entire Plan Is A Terrible Idea
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Loving a sick pet often means making painful choices before the absolute hardest day even arrives.
One cat owner wants future vet care handled at home, but when her partner objects, would you compromise or prioritize the cat’s comfort?
This tough disagreement centers on two very different kinds of grief, with one fearing stress for the cat and the other fearing memories inside their home.
Read on to see how the argument played out.
WIBTA for getting an in-home vet against my partner’s wishes?
I (40f) have a cat (12f). My kitty has a heart condition that can cause her to go at any moment.
The last time we took her to the vet, it was incredibly stressful and her heart rate increased and she began panting.
Fortunately it came down and she’s fine. However, I decided that the best thing for her is to find a vet who does house calls.
I found a mobile vet service that comes to the house and they came highly recommended in my community and by my kitty’s vet.
Here are some more details about the cat’s health.
However, given my kitty’s condition, there isn’t a lot left to do other than give her the medication she’s been getting to keep her comfortable.
She’s still shockingly healthy despite her heart condition but that could change at any moment (ETA: What I mean is that she’s healthy outside of her heart condition. Actually, she’s pretty healthy overall with her heart condition).
It’s important to me that if and when the time comes, they can do euthanasia in my home so she can go in a familiar environment and not at the vet’s office. This also gives her little (cat) sister a chance to be present, which I think is important.
My goal is to keep her comfortable at home and I think it’s what she needs at this point. It’s clear not hauling her off to the vet is what she needs.
Her partner disagrees.
The problem is my partner (42f). She doesn’t want strangers in the house like this and she doesn’t want our cat to be euthanized in the home.
She says she doesn’t want our home to have memories of our cat dying and that she’d always look in the same spot and see that’s where our cat died.
While I do understand and respect how she feels, I feel our cat’s needs outweigh hers in this scenario and it’s more important to do right by her.
Even her regular vet recommends doing this.
She’s considering ignoring the spouse’s wishes.
My partner saw how stressful the last vet visit was and how broken our cat was when we had to put her older brother down and he didn’t come home.
I don’t want to make the same mistake again but I do feel a little like an AH for going against her in this scenario and overruling her.
So I ask Reddit if I WIBTA for making the appointment anyways and going through with this despite what my spouse says?
That’s a tough situation. Should she choose her spouse’s wishes or what she feels is best for her cat?
Let’s see what Reddit has to say about it.
Will her partner also be upset if she’s holding her cat?
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Here’s another vote for her partner leaving when the time comes.
This person chose to do in-home euthanasia for a pet.
Her partner’s needs are not the priority in this situation.
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Another person calls the partner selfish.
The cat’s regular vet supported home visits, especially after a previous appointment caused dangerous stress and panting.
After more discussion, her partner reluctantly agreed, while also admitting some resistance came from lingering trauma over their previous cat’s death.
Sometimes the kindest plan is not the easiest one to picture, but the one that keeps the patient calmest.
Nobody wants to plan the goodbye, but at least this cat gets home-field advantage.
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