June 8, 2024 at 9:22 am

Their Brother And His Family Moved In But Weren’t Paying Their Part Of The Rent, So They Decided To Move Out And Leave Them Hanging

by Matthew Gilligan

Source: Reddit

Time to go, friends!

Sometimes that’s all you can say when things get a little too uncomfortable in your own home.

So I can sympathize with this person!

But do you agree with what they did?

Read their story and see what you think.

AITA for moving out of my parent’s house when my brother and his family moved in?

“I rented my parent’s house after they retired and moved south. I paid slightly below market rate.

The plan was for me to save up and eventually buy the house at a great price. They would then give that money to my brother as his part of their estate. My share was the subsidized rent and the very subsidized purchase agreement.

Everyone thought this was fair. Until my brother’s wife started running up debts they couldn’t cover. This lead to them losing their home and needing help.

They were willing to help out.

I love my brother and my nephews so when my mom asked me if they could move in I talked to my husband and we agreed. We are in the process of adopting two siblings but we are still not there. It was only going to be temporary so why not?

Half off the rent for a few months would totally help us with the down payment and expenses. They moved in in February. When March rolled around I sent transferred half my usual rent to my parents. My mom called to ask me where the rest was.


I said I assumed that Brad was paying the other half. Nope. I had to pay all the rent. I asked why I had to pay for them to stay in my house. My mom said it wasn’t my house yet and that I was being mouthy.

I saw the writing on the wall. I paid the rent and started looking. We had a good amount saved up and we didn’t need a big old house with lots of maintenance issues we had been handling.

We paid the full rent in April as well. But we moved out and into the house we closed on. It was ready for immediate possession. With my husband and I having decent income and 25% down it went smoothly. The only downside is the much smaller yard. But it is a block away from a public park so we aren’t losing much.

Not my problem anymore!

I did tell my parents we were leaving. May 1, I got another call from my mom. She wanted the rent. I said I wasn’t living there any more. She said I was breaking our deal. I said that our deal never included me paying for my brother’s living expenses.

She said that they couldn’t afford to cover the mortgage without my rent. I told her to get money from my brother. He was still working. She said he was trying to pay his debts. I said that his wife should get a job.

I could write a much longer post just on this discussion.

Long story short she said I was being cheap and vicious to my brother and to my parents.

We are settling in to our newish house and just ignoring them for a while. But I’m wondering about if maybe I’m wrong.


Let’s see what folks had to say on Reddit.

This person shared their thoughts.

Source: Reddit

Another Reddit user had a lot to say.

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This person said they’re NTA.

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Another reader nailed it.

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I would’ve hit the road, too!

To hell with that!

If you thought that was an interesting story, check out what happened when a family gave their in-laws a free place to stay in exchange for babysitting, but things changed when they don’t hold up their end of the bargain.