When your child marries, their spouse expects to be part of your family.

This woman shares that her son and daughter-in-law graduated from grad school at the same time.

She felt that it was important to get her son a gift, but it was only after the fact that she realized it might’ve been a good idea to get her daughter-in-law a gift too.

Did she mess up?

Read the story below for all the details.

AITA for only getting a college graduation gift for my 28M son and not my DIL 28F?

I (55F) have son.

I raised him as a single mother.

He recently graduated from grad school.

His wife, my daughter-in-law, also graduated at the same time.

This woman gave her son a graduation gift.

I gave a special gift of a bit of cash just to my son because I’m proud of him as his mother, and I feel a sense of pride since I raised him as a single mom.

I figured my DIL had her own parents to gift to her.

Her daughter-in-law felt hurt for not getting a gift from her.

Well, my DIL texted me saying she was very hurt that I only acknowledged my son (her husband’s grad) and not hers.

She thought she was a part of the family as my DIL and that they been together for a while.

She believes she doesn’t have to apologize to her DIL.

She said she didn’t expect the same amount of money, of course, but perhaps just a card or something.

She said she felt like I overlooked all her hard work and only saw my son’s.

However, I don’t feel like I need to apologize or justify my choice in wanting to reward my son individually.

Am I the jerk for overlooking my DIL’s accomplishment and only acknowledging my son’s?

A smaller gesture like a card or maybe flowers would’ve been nice.

Let’s find out the reactions of other people to this story on Reddit.

This person shares a valid point.

Here’s another honest opinion from this person.

This user thinks she could have given the gift to both of them instead.

This person offers some advice.

Finally, this user shares their personal thoughts.

Any form of congratulatory gift would have been nice.

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