May 16, 2025 at 7:55 am

Her Colleague Had Mansplained To Her, But Instead Of Accountability, She Received Blame

by Ashley Ashbee

Woman talking beside whiteboard

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You’d think by now it would be socially unacceptable to mansplain, but it often isn’t, especially in certain workplace cultures.

Sometimes you just have to put up with it – but other times a rare opportunity for retribution arises.

Check out how this worker stood up for herself.

AITA for publicly calling out my coworker’s mansplaining during my presentation?

I work at a tech startup where most of my colleagues are men.

I’ve been here for 2 years and while I love my job, it hasn’t been easy being one of the few women in a male-dominated space.

Last week, we had a team meeting about our upcoming project.

It didn’t go smoothly…

I spent weeks researching and preparing my presentation.

When I started speaking, my coworker kept interrupting me with “Actually” and “Well, technically” comments.

Every. Single. Time.

This guy has a history of mansplaining to female colleagues while never questioning the guys.

So halfway through my presentation, when he interrupted me for the 5th time to “Correct” something that wasn’t even wrong, I stopped everything.

I said, “If you interrupt me one more time, I’m going to start a tally on the whiteboard of how many times you’ve done it, and we can all analyze the pattern after the meeting.”

The room went dead silent.

My boss looked uncomfortable but didn’t say anything.

The guy turned bright red and stayed quiet for the rest of my presentation.

Then comes a familiar reaction.

Afterward, some female colleagues quietly thanked me, saying they’d experienced the same thing.

But my boss pulled me aside and said while he understood my frustration, I “Embarrassed a team member” and should have handled it privately.

Here’s the thing: I’ve tried private conversations TWICE before with this guy and nothing changed.

My male colleagues interrupt each other all the time without consequences, but when I stand up for myself, I’m “creating drama.”

My boss suggested I apologize, but I refused.

Now there’s tension in the office, and I’m wondering if I went too far.

AITA for calling out my mansplaining coworker in front of everyone?

Here is what folks are talking about.

It needs to be dealt with, but this wouldn’t be effective.

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Good question. She needs to quit.

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Nice try, but no.

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I don’t think so…

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The fact that you wrote this tells me you resent women.

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It’s hard for women in tech.

And everywhere, if we’re being honest.

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