Weddings are supposed to celebrate love, not reopen old wounds.

But when one bride chose to exclude her dad from walking her down the aisle, her decision spoke volumes — and not everyone liked what they heard.

Read on for the full story.

AITAH for not letting my dad walk me down the aisle at my wedding?

I recently got married, and while the day was mostly wonderful, there’s been some fallout with my dad that’s been really hard to deal with.

My (30F) dad and I have had a rocky relationship most of my life. He wasn’t really around consistently when I was growing up.

She owes most of what she has today to her mother.

My mom did most of the heavy lifting raising me and my siblings — emotionally and financially.

There were times he tried to come back into our lives, but it always felt like walking on eggshells.

Lots of drama, unpredictable moods, guilt-tripping— it was really, really exhausting.

So when it came time for her special day, she felt conflicted.

Honestly, I didn’t feel comfortable having him walk me down the aisle at my wedding. It didn’t feel authentic or right given our history.

I was originally unsure about even inviting him, but after some conversations with my family, I decided to extend an invite out of respect.

She lets him know ahead of time what she was envisioning.

We even had a lunch beforehand where I told him gently that I’d be walking down the aisle on my own, and he seemed to understand at the time.

Well… apparently he didn’t.

After the wedding, he told a bunch of family members that he was hurt and felt like I embarrassed or rejected him.

Now some relatives are calling me selfish or heartless, saying “he’s still your dad” and that I should’ve just given him that moment.

She feels ambivalent towards her father, but that doesn’t mean she wishes him harm.

I don’t hate my dad. I just didn’t want to pretend like we had a relationship we don’t have —especially on a day that was really personal and meaningful to me.

I wasn’t trying to hurt him. I was trying to protect my peace.

But the rest of the family’s pressure is getting to her.

But with all the backlash I’ve gotten from some of our relatives, this has been sitting heavy on my heart 🥲

Is it really a bad decision? AITAH?

Not every father-daughter bond fits neatly into a wedding ceremony.

What did Reddit have to say?

Your wedding should be your day, not everyone else’s.

The role isn’t just a ceremonial one.

Her dad shouldn’t expect her to just magically forgive all his past wrongdoings.

In a way, this commenter sees both sides.

Ultimately, she chose her peace over performance.

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