Planning a wedding is stressful enough without having to navigate past betrayals.

After her childhood friend quietly left her off the guest list several years prior, one bride-to-be wonders whether this same friend deserves a spot at her wedding.

Read on for the full story.

WIBTA if I tell my friend she isn’t invited to my wedding?

I (28F) have a childhood friend (29F) who I thought was my BEST friend.

She didn’t invite me to her wedding at the time.

This stung, but she managed to move on with her life.

I was very hurt, and when I asked why I didn’t get invited, she said she was so busy planning that she forgot!

I felt this wasn’t true at the time, but I understood it wasn’t my day, and I moved on.

But when she starts to plan her own wedding, the topic of guest lists come up yet again.

Flash forward 6 years later — I’m engaged, and we’re on the topic of weddings.

She’s asking me what I want and all these questions, and we start talking about how big it might be and the guest lists.

Her friend continues to pry about the guest list.

Mind you, I’m pretty conservative with the amount of people and how big I want it to be.

She’s the one directing and leading this convo.

She mentions that when SHE got married, she was getting closer in her faith and just couldn’t have certain people around on her special day.

Of course, in my head I’m like, oh, bet—you couldn’t have me around?

She couldn’t believe her friend’s hypocrisy.

But NOW she not only expects to be at my wedding (that isn’t even planned yet), she insists that she attends.

Like, she full-on said, “I don’t care where it’s at or when—I’m going to be there.”

But does she deserve to be there?

I’m thinking, uhhhhh… we will see.

At the time we were talking elopement with only our parents when she said this!

How can I break it to her that she isn’t invited without causing a giant stir-up?

She’s not trying to be cruel — just honest about where they stand.

What did Reddit have to say?

Her friend may expect an invite, but that doesn’t mean she’s entitled to one.

With delicate situations like this, maybe it’s best to just rip the bandaid off.

Is this friendship really even serving her at all?

This user warns the bride-to-be to brace herself for all kinds of potential drama.

Some connections just fizzle out, and that’s okay.

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