It used to be that the husband would work and the wife would stay home with the kids and take care of the household responsibilities.

Nowadays, that’s often not how it works.

If you and your husband split up the household chores, would you be upset if your in-laws criticized you for making your husband (their son) do household work, or would you simply ignore them?

This woman shares how her in-laws disrespected her, but yet they expect her to respect them. It’s not that easy.

Check out the full story.

AITAH for being disrespectful to in laws, because I said I am not their son’s servant ?

I am 28f married to my husband Tyler 30m.

We both are Asians.

I also have a son 1m.

My family lives nearby and we pay for full time nanny under their supervision for his care.

It sounds like they have similar jobs.

In Asian culture, women whether they work or not, have to contribute most of household work. But with new generation, we girls are putting our foot down and are not allowing this.

My husband and I work at same organisation and met there, when we were 22 and new members. It is a public sector Central Bank and it is same position and job.

We make same salary and work 10 to 6 mon to Friday.

They have divided their responsibilities…

We both make six figures and have household help for cleaning. But cooking is on me and my husband does laundry, utensils ( house help clean them most ).

Baby’s care is mostly on me. I feel lucky to be in this position as we are saving for a house and our rental is leased by the bank.

My in-laws have retired and are visiting here for month.

This is where it gets bad…

Overall, there are no major issues with them and my child loves them and they love him too.

But seeing my husband doing household chores, their faces speak million words.

So my mil started saying, during evening snack time, that women in their generation managed both homes and work. The girls are too lazy now.

Fil said that he is proud of his wife for managing both. And jokingly said, my husband is henpecked (sarcastically).

UH OH…

My husband stayed silent and I also sarcastically replied that, I have no interest in being a servant to their grownup son and how I had to train him for basic chores, during initial days as couple, six years back.

As they failed to teach him basic life things. I will make sure, my son learns everything. So his future partner will never complain.

I also said how men and previous in laws generation exploited women, which led to do many women being bitter and taking it out on their next generation of daughter in laws.

My mother had to cook for family of ten people, because only then grand mother took care of me and my siblings.

That’s INSANE!

My in-laws got angry and said I am being disrespectful.

I just said I am being truthful.

Since then, mil and I am not talking. Fil is ok though.

My husband said to apologise and they are here for some weeks only and also love our son.

That’s true , but I don’t see why should I apologise. They started it. I can’t be fake diplomatic person.

My husband is now giving me cold shoulder and told me that I made him look less masculine. He said his father already pointed out, that my husband removes chest hair and finds it very girly thing to do.

She knows she’s not wrong here!

That previous gen men were proud of their chest hair.. But I never pressured him to do that or remove them. It is his choice only.. so I don’t know why he brought this up!

He becomes different person, whenever his parents visit. Otherwise he is chill husband

Am I the ah for being disrespectful to elders?

YIKES! That’s a tough situation.

Why can’t they be more open towards their son helping out with the household chores?

Let’s find out what folks on Reddit think about this one.

That’s right! This user encourages her to stand up for herself.

Exactly! This user knows that being older doesn’t make one worthy of respect.

This user thinks her husband needs to re-evaluate his definition of masculine.

This user knows she brought up some great points!

This user is sure that she isn’t at fault here!

Talk about horrible in-laws!

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