Nobody wants to find out that their partner is cheating on them.

But in this story, a woman is worried it’s her fault for crossing a phone line.

Let’s dial in.

AITA for going through my boyfriend’s phone after I caught him lying and finding out he cheated?

So, I (27F) have been with my boyfriend (29M) for almost 4 years.

We live together, we’ve talked about marriage and starting a family.

Like, this was supposed to be my person.

What went wrong?

The last few months though, things started to feel off.

He was coming home later, suddenly very protective over his phone, barely touched me anymore.

I asked him a few times if something was going on and he kept saying he was just “stressed from work” or “tired.”

The part that’s probably going to make me the jerk here: I went through his phone.

Sometimes the temptation is just too strong. What did OP find?

I KNOW it’s a violation of trust, and I’m not proud of it.

But something in my gut just wouldn’t let it go.

And yeah—of course I found stuff.

He’s been talking to this girl from his gym, calling her “babe,” sending her pics, telling her he “wishes he was in her bed instead.”

It wasn’t just flirting. They met up.

I saw the hotel booking. The Uber receipts.

It was all there.

Oh no. Talk about receipts. Wonder how her BF is gonna defend himself…

When I confronted him, he didn’t even deny it.

He just looked at me and said, “I knew you were going to find out eventually.”

Like it was inevitable?? Like cheating on me was a given??

He also had the audacity to say that I “pushed him away” and that he “has needs” and “you weren’t the same anymore.”

Whatever the heck that means.

By blaming her, of course. But nobody’s buying that, right?

Anyway, I packed a bag and left that night.

I’m staying with my sister.

Here’s where I might actually be the AH though: our friends are kinda split.

Some say I had every right to go through his phone if I suspected something, others say I crossed a line and that “two wrongs don’t make a right.”

Uhhh… whose side are they on, here?

One even said I “ruined the relationship by not trusting him.”

Like… he cheated. But now I’m the one second-guessing everything.

So… AITA for going through his phone and blowing it all up?

I mean, phone snooping is a hot topic. But it’s not like he wasn’t cheating.

What do the comments think?

This person says, drop ’em all.

Here’s another vote for dropping the call(s).

Someone else just says, sorry.

Another person says, you have a right to find out if someone is cheating.

Another person says maybe you WERE wrong, but he was definitely the AH.

Not all relationships have cheat codes.

And getting caught means it’s your fault. Period.

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