When you have a new baby, many people will be excited for you and want to see your little one, but it is important to have boundaries.

What would you do if you had a new baby and your in-laws were constantly overstepping their bounds and causing a lot of problems, but your husband always took their side?

That is the situation the new mom in this story is in, and she is starting to wonder if she is out of line for setting these boundaries.

Let’s read all the details.

AITA For trying to set boundaries?

I (30yo first time mom) had my son back in February. He’s the first child in my husband’s family in 30 years.

My in-laws are a little crazy about it.

It started out okay with my MIL only commenting that I was “HUGE” a few times.

Annoying but I’ll live.

This seems like a very reasonable request.

We made it to the hospital to deliver him narrowly missing having to be induced. My first request was that no one visit me while I was in labor.

Who shows up? MIL, FIL, SIL.

Had to run them out of the room to get my epidural. But it’s fine. No big deal.

My second request was that the first family member to meet my son would be my dad.

Who shows up first? MIL and FIL.

Everyone is excited. I get it.

Why isn’t her husband telling them not to come?

We brought him home.

My MIL came to my house unannounced when I was 3 days postpartum, walked in and said, “I’m just gonna take him from you” and snatched him from me.

Yikes but alright.

She then proceeded to do this for 13 days straight.

Told my husband I’d like her to stop and he blew up at me. Said he’d hoped I’d gotten past my “Weird” problem with his mom.

I reiterated I didn’t mind if she came over I just wish she would call first and not take my son from me.

He was still upset with me but eventually told her not to return the next day.

She shouldn’t let her hold the baby if it is upset.

When we’d visit my in-laws, she immediately wanted my son and wouldn’t return him to me no matter how upset he got which led to me not wanting to visit.

My husband told me I was being petty and punishing her.

Maybe I am the problem in the situation.

Eventually I had to return to work. I wanted my parents to keep my son the first time.

That hurt MIL feelings.

My husband got mad and yelled at me that I didn’t trust her. So I let her watch him the next time.

I wasn’t trying to be hard to deal with.

If her MIL won’t honor boundaries, she doesn’t get to watch the baby.

About two weeks later, I let her watch my son again.

My husband picked him up and when I got home he was excitedly telling me that she’d purchased our son a sit me up chair and tried it out.

I paused. I had specified I didn’t want my in-laws buying “baby gear” without getting my opinion first because I personally didn’t want to use a sit me up chair. So, I reminded my husband and asked him to tell her not to use the chair again.

He spent the next few hours telling me I was crazy and putting too many rules in place. That I should trust his mom and stop worrying so much. How was she supposed to know our son wasn’t old enough to use the chair?

But he called his dad and asked them to stop using it even though he “Wasn’t sure why they couldn’t.”

Their response was that they’d bought a bunch of baby gear and toys from a distant family member and just wanted to try it.

The husband is the real problem here.

So, not only did they disrespect my boundary with the chair they’d bought an entire room full that my husband knew about and didn’t tell me.

I asked him why he kept it from me and he said he knew I’d overreact.

AITA?

Wow, I feel bad for this young mom. Her husband is not standing up for her at all, and her in-laws are insufferable.

Let’s see what the people in the comments on Reddit have to say about it.

This person went through something similar.

I agree with this commenter 100%.

Her MIL is only getting away with it because her husband won’t support her.

Yes, she needs to stand firm on her boundaries.

This commenter says her husband should be supporting her.

This woman has a husband problem, not an in-law problem.

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