September 17, 2025 at 7:55 am

Her Boyfriend Only Wants To Make Plans With His Friends And Family, But She Wants To Include Her People, Too

by Mila Cardozo

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Would you give someone another chance after noticing a major red flag, or end things on the spot?

In today’s story, a woman shares how she noticed her boyfriend only wants to spend time with his family and his friends, and deflects whenever she suggests something else.

Every relationship requires some level of compromise, but things can quickly crumble if only one person is compromising.

Let’s read the whole story.

AITAH for being upset that my boyfriend makes plans for us every week and weekend with his family and friends?

My boyfriend will schedule plans with his family and friends over time alone with just the two of us and does not plan dates.

Every day through the week we have to be doing something with his family or friends.

He states that time is important to him, which I understand.

But it’s deeply bothering her.

But because of all of these plans made that impact our time together, I don’t get alone time, time to relax, or time with spend with my friends and family.

I’ve tried inviting him to things I have planned and he doesn’t want to go because he has his plans and then makes me feel guilty and shames me for not going.

I’ve tried talking to him and he says we are in “two different worlds.” I feel like giving up.

Yikes. Something has to change.

Let’s see how Reddit reacted to this.

This comment sums it up.

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Exactly.

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Food for thought.

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Another reader chimes in.

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It can be as simple as that.

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Sound advice.

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Would she be okay if he never changed this behavior?

It’s good that she noticed this red flag before things got more serious.

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