Turning 21 is a significant milestone that many people look forward to celebrating.

If you had plans for your 21st birthday, would you cancel them to celebrate your niece’s birthday?

This woman had planned to spend her 21st birthday with her friends from university.

However, her sister scheduled a big party for her niece’s first birthday on the exact same day even though the little girl’s real birthday is one week earlier.

Now, she’s not sure if she should attend her niece’s party or go ahead with her own birthday plans.

Read the full story below.

WIBTA for not attending my nieces birthday party?

I (20F, turning 21) come from an African household where family is everything.

However, I’ve always felt pretty neglected.

I’ve never had a birthday party because it was too expensive.

I don’t get presents from family (not for birthdays or Christmas).

This young woman had to give up a lot of things for her family.

I don’t even have a bedroom at home since I was told to give it up when my sister had her baby.

Now, I sleep on the sofa whenever I’m back from uni.

All my bedroom stuff was put into storage 2 hours away that I’m paying for.

She also had to work hard to support herself through college.

My parents also don’t support me financially.

I work a lot more hours than a typical student just to afford to live at uni.

Because of all this, I don’t usually do much for my birthdays.

The one nice thing I’ve had in recent years is celebrating with my boyfriend and we had a small dinner.

For her birthday, she will be celebrating with her university friends.

This year, I was really looking forward to doing something with my uni friends.

Probably just a pub night, but it’s the biggest thing I’ve done since I feel 21 is kind of a milestone.

It has to be at uni because my home friends will be away at their unis since it’s during term time.

The problem is my niece’s first birthday is on September 21st and mine is on the 27th.

Her sister moved her niece’s birthday celebration on the 27th.

When my sister said she wanted to throw a party for my niece, I was happy to attend. I assumed it would be on the weekend of the 21st.

But then, my sister said she couldn’t do the 21st because her friends wouldn’t want to travel on a Sunday.

She refused to do Saturday, the 20th, because “you can’t celebrate a birthday before it’s happened.”

Instead, she booked a hall for the 27th, which is my birthday.

Her sister got upset and guilt-tripped her.

When I told her I was upset, she guilt tripped me, saying I’d already said I’d come.

Which I did, back when I thought it was the 21st.

She even suggested I bring friends to up the numbers, but all my home friends will be back at their unis.

My uni friends aren’t going to travel 5+ hours for a kids’ party.

She feels sad that her niece gets to celebrate twice, and she doesn’t.

The part that really stings is that I’ve found out she’s still doing smaller celebrations for my niece on her actual birthday as well (the 21st) whereas the big party will be on the 27th.

So my niece basically gets two birthdays, and I lose mine entirely.

Should she skip her birthday plans for her niece’s party, or should she refuse to attend the niece’s party?

Let’s check out the comments of other people on Reddit to this story.

This user shares their personal thoughts.

Do what makes you happy, advises this person.

This person makes a valid point.

People are siding with her.

Finally, short and simple.

Everyone deserves their moment to feel celebrated.

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