Starting college for the first time is supposed to be exciting, but some overbearing parents find ways to make it stressful.

One incoming freshman decided to room with her male bestie, but her mother flipped out and demanded she switch rooms immediately.

So when the student discovered her mom went behind her back to school administrators, she was forced to decide just how involved she wanted her parents to be in her adult life.

You’ll want to keep reading for this one.

AITA for keeping my roommate for college despite my parents’ wishes?

I (18F) am starting college this fall.

Earlier this summer, I filled out my housing application and waited to hear who my roommate might be and what hall I would live in.

She decided to take a more non-traditional approach to her roommate selection.

Earlier in the school year, a good friend of mine (18M) suggested that we should apply to be roommates.

I thought it’d be a fun idea, but we missed the deadline for roommate selection, so we just got thrown into the random pool.

Luckily, things still ended up working in her favor.

Come mid-July, I get a call from my mom letting me know that housing assignments got released a few days early.

I check my account and, coincidentally, my roommate is my friend.

I didn’t tell my mother right at that moment because I knew she’d likely freak out when she heard the news.

And unfortunately, she was right — her mother was quite displeased.

A few days later, I told her, and she wasn’t happy.

She said that there’s something wrong with me if I’m comfortable sleeping in the same room as a man, that I don’t actually know him, and that I shouldn’t be okay undressing in the same room as him (we have communal bathrooms so that isn’t a problem).

She said I have to submit a room change form as soon as the form is released.

She tries to remind her parents that she’s an adult now.

A few weeks prior, I had a conversation with my parents about being 18, and they affirmed that I am technically an adult and should make my own decisions.

I brought this up, and she said fine, but you have to tell your dad yourself.

At first, her dad seemed fine with it, but that soon changed.

About a week later, I told my dad, and all he said was that as long as my grades are good he doesn’t care.

About a week after that, my parents simultaneously blew up, degrading both me and my friend, and telling me that I don’t care about them.

Her mother continues her manipulation campaign.

My mom said that if I keep my roommate, she will not be able to sleep peacefully at night and heart problems will appear, and that it will be a clear indication as to whether I care about my parents.

I had a long list of reasons as to why I should keep my roommate as well as my room, such as close proximity to classes and a preference for the residence hall.

No matter what she did, her parents refused to see her side.

The only downside she could identify was my roommate being a boy.

I was expecting her to at least acknowledge the pros I gave her, but that was not the case.

Soon she realized her mother tried to go behind her back.

The next morning, I get an email from an administrator in housing explaining that she has a couple questions for me.

I call the number she left and come to find out, my mom called numerous administrators as well as other staff to try and get me moved to a different room or get my roommate placed elsewhere.

To her, this is an upsetting reminder of a long and painful history of manipulation and meddling.

I was upset about this as my mom has a long history of going behind my back and doing things her way, but I told the administrator that I wanted to keep my room.

So she decides she needs to claw back some control, but still she has her doubts.

She said that she’ll put it on my file to only contact me, as my school prefers to speak to students about student issues.

My parents really locked down on the decision being indicative of how much I care about their feelings.

Should I have caved and changed rooms?

This student was right to stand her ground against her overbearing parents.

What did Reddit make of all this?

This commenter thinks her mother is being really crazy about this.

If her mother truly has health concerns, that’s up to her and her doctor to figure out — not her college-aged daughter.

Maybe it’s time she put her parents on an information diet.

It’s time to take every precaution possible to prevent her parents from excessive meddling.

Luckily, housing only needed one signature — and it wasn’t Mom’s.

This mother needs to accept that her daughter is an adult.

If you thought that was an interesting story, check out what happened when a family gave their in-laws a free place to stay in exchange for babysitting, but things changed when they don’t hold up their end of the bargain.