Childcare arrangements rely on trust and respect.

The following story is about a woman who relies on her mother-in-law to help care for her one-year-old daughter.

However, she started noticing that her requests and instructions were constantly ignored.

The more she reminded her MIL about the “rules,” the more her MIL claimed she forgot them.

Ugh! Isn’t it frustrating? Let’s take a closer look.

AITA for “speaking down to my mother in law”

I (29F) am married to my husband (30M), and we have a daughter (1F).

We both work full-time jobs, so during the week, we have childcare for our daughter.

This consists of two days with my in-laws, two days with a nanny, and one day with my parents.

This woman started feeling agitated with her mother-in-law.

I have never had a problem with my in-laws.

But ever since I had my daughter, my mother-in-law gets under my skin so much.

She has three boys, so she has never had a daughter. I’m not sure if that has anything to do with it.

She does not listen to me about anything I have set in place for my baby.

Her MIL kept contradicting what she said.

I feel like what I ask are reasonable requests.

I ask her not to share utensils with the baby, which I have seen her do.

I ask her to feed her what I’ve left her for lunch. She won’t.

She eats out for every single meal every day.

Instead of feeding my one-year-old what I leave, she will just give her fast food.

The baby’s sleep schedule gets messed up.

She keeps the door open when she goes to the bathroom. My baby goes in and plays in there.

All she does all day, every day, is watch TV. So I ask her to limit TV time for my daughter.

She won’t put her down at the times I tell her.

This messes up her sleep schedule, and my daughter is a terror without a sleep schedule.

Now, her MIL told her husband that she was being condescending.

She just flat out does not respect my wishes as a mother. She claims to forget all the time.

I literally wrote her down a schedule to help with her forgetfulness.

When I leave in the morning and tell her things, I repeat it multiple times to make sure she’s got it.

Apparently, she told my husband that I’ve been “talking down to her.”

She’s clueless about how to deal with the situation.

It is making me question whether I’ve been overreacting.

I wonder if I am being a helicopter mom.

Or she’s just blatantly not listening and doing whatever she wants.

I am trying to figure out how to address it.

Let’s check out the comments of other people.

This user shares their personal thoughts.

This person gives some useful advice.

Here’s a valid point from this one.

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Finally, people are saying the same thing.

Babysitting isn’t just about love. It’s also about following the rules.

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