August 24, 2026 at 7:35 am

They Moved Into a Bigger House Specifically So His Brother Could Live With Them—Now His Constant Mess Has Her Ready to Ask Him to Leave

by Heather Hall

Woman sitting in a chair thinking about kicking out BIL

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It’s hard to feel comfortable in your own home when someone else keeps making things hard for you.

One woman is dealing with that after letting her brother-in-law move in with her and her husband.

In an attempt to help him out, they even moved into a bigger house so he could have his own bedroom and bathroom.

Since then, though, she says the mess has gotten out of control and talking to him hasn’t changed anything.

Now, she’s tired of cleaning up after him and dealing with the smell spreading through the house.

Read on to learn her full story.

AITAH I DONT WANT TO LIVE WITH MESSY BROTHER IN LAW

My brother-in-law (my husband’s younger brother) has been living with us for a few months now.

Back in January, I agreed to let him move into our two-bedroom apartment. It was already pretty cramped, and we were planning to move into a bigger place anyway.

In April, we moved into a three-bedroom, two-bathroom house so he could have his own bedroom and bathroom.

Since then, things have gone drastically downhill.

They’ve tried talking to him, but he doesn’t listen.

He’s a complete slob. He doesn’t clean up after himself or respect our home. I stay up late every night resetting the house and cleaning the kitchen, only to wake up to food spills, trash on the floor, dirty dishes, and new messes everywhere. It feels like a complete lack of respect.

The bathroom he uses is absolutely disgusting, and he refuses to do his laundry, so his bedroom reeks. The smell is starting to spread through the rest of the house.

We’ve talked to him about cleaning up after himself, but nothing changes. At this point, I’m exhausted and frustrated, so I want to tell him it’s time to move out.

AITA?

Wow! It’s hard to imagine acting like that in someone else’s home.

Let’s see what the people over at Reddit think she should do.

That’s a really good point.

Messy BIL 3 They Moved Into a Bigger House Specifically So His Brother Could Live With Them—Now His Constant Mess Has Her Ready to Ask Him to Leave

Great question.

Messy BIL 2 They Moved Into a Bigger House Specifically So His Brother Could Live With Them—Now His Constant Mess Has Her Ready to Ask Him to Leave

According to this reader, it’s the husband’s responsibility to solve this.

Messy BIL 1 They Moved Into a Bigger House Specifically So His Brother Could Live With Them—Now His Constant Mess Has Her Ready to Ask Him to Leave

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Yet another reader who thinks this is on the husband.

Messy BIL They Moved Into a Bigger House Specifically So His Brother Could Live With Them—Now His Constant Mess Has Her Ready to Ask Him to Leave

It’s time to put her foot down.

The longer she allows this to go on, the longer it’s going to be an issue.

To begin, she needs to get her husband on her side, and have him talk to his brother again.

If that doesn’t work, then she may ask their parents or someone else for advice.

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Heather Hall | Contributing Writer, Life & Drama

Heather Hall is a contributing writer for TwistedSifter specializing in internet culture, workplace conflict, and viral customer service stories. With over a decade of editorial experience in digital publishing, Heather excels at curating trending online discussions and providing insightful commentary on the daily dramas that capture the internet's attention.

Since beginning her career in 2011, she has developed deep expertise in SEO-driven digital content, having written for a wide array of publications covering lifestyle, business, and travel. At TwistedSifter, Heather focuses on synthesizing complex social media threads into engaging, highly readable narratives that highlight the human element of viral news.

When she isn’t analyzing the latest internet discourse, Heather is a dedicated mother of three sons who takes family gaming nights entirely too seriously—whether she is dominating in Mario Kart, exploring The Legend of Zelda, or jumping into Roblox.

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