You can apologize for any mistake, but that doesn’t mean you can undo the damage.

One mother is dealing with that after her daughter learned that a former best friend had passed away.

Years earlier, the daughter wrongly accused the woman of cheating and spread the story until it destroyed her marriage and reputation.

By the time she learned the truth, the friendship was over, and the woman wanted nothing more to do with her.

Now, the daughter plans to travel two states away for the funeral, but her mother thinks she has no business being there.

Read on to see what you think about this whole situation.

AITA for telling my daughter she doesn’t have the right to mourn or go to her ex friends funeral after what she did

When my daughter was in school, she became friends with a girl named Kelly. They stayed close through college, and my daughter was even one of Kelly’s bridesmaids when she got married.

To explain where my daughter’s behavior came from, my ex-husband cheated on me repeatedly, and our marriage ended horribly.

My daughter doesn’t speak to her father anymore, and she absolutely despises cheating.

When Kelly found out what her daughter did, she cut all contact with her.

About seven years ago, my daughter became convinced that Kelly was cheating on her husband. She started harassing Kelly online and essentially blew up her life.

By the time my daughter found out that the man she had seen Kelly with was actually a relative (they were at a fancy restaurant together), it was too late. Kelly’s marriage had already fallen apart, and because we live in a very religious community, she was ostracized by many people.

They had a huge falling out, and it basically came down to my daughter ruining Kelly’s life.

Kelly blocked her on everything and eventually moved away. Kelly hated my daughter after that, and so did her mother. I still run into Kelly’s mother occasionally, and she has made her feelings about my daughter very clear.

Now, she wants to attend Kelly’s funeral.

The issue is that Kelly recently passed away. My daughter found out through a Facebook post, and the funeral is this weekend, two states away.

My daughter was planning to attend the funeral, and I told her that I thought it was a terrible idea. She said she needed to go, and I told her again that she shouldn’t. We got into an argument, and she said she had every right to mourn her friend and attend the funeral.

I told her that she really didn’t have the right to mourn Kelly or go to the funeral because Kelly hated her after everything that happened and because my daughter had destroyed her life.

She hasn’t spoken to me since. Now I’m wondering if I should warn Kelly’s family that my daughter might show up at the funeral.

AITA?

Yikes! That’s a really tough situation.

Let’s take a look at what the folks over at Reddit think she should do.

Yes! This!

It is a very selfish thing.

This person thinks she did the right thing.

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Grief is fickle, but she shouldn’t go.

The daughter should stay far away from the funeral.

While she may genuinely regret what happened, Kelly made it clear years ago that she wanted nothing more to do with her.

And her showing up now could make an already painful day even harder for Kelly’s family.

If she wants to mourn, she can do that privately without putting herself into a situation where she isn’t welcome.