Sometimes, no matter how many boundaries you set, people keep crossing them like they don’t exist.

So, what would you do if your daughter-in-law kept calling you “Mom,” pushed for personal details you weren’t comfortable sharing, and even demanded to come along on a trip she wasn’t invited to?

Would you stay calm and include her to keep the peace?

Or would you finally say what you’ve been thinking the whole time?

In today’s story, one woman finds herself in this exact scenario and cannot hold her tongue any longer.

Here’s what happened.

AITA for telling my DIL that I will never be her mother and to leave me alone

This is mostly about my daughter-in-law (Kat).

Her mother ran out on her when she was a child, and she went into foster care.

According to my son, she’s currently seeing a therapist.

My issue with Kat is that she has repeatedly stomped on my boundaries.

She’s a very touchy person, and she refuses to call me by my name, only referring to me as “Mom.”

I correct her every time because I’m not comfortable being called “Mom” by her and want her to use my name.

It’s clear that Kat doesn’t know how to respect boundaries.

There have been multiple times when she’s asked inappropriate questions, mostly about why I’m not close to my own mother. (For context, my mother was horrible.)

Kat keeps pushing for details and insists I should get closer to her because “family sticks together.”

She basically tells me to forgive my mom, and she doesn’t understand not being close to one’s parents.

I’ve told her to drop the topic multiple times, and she refuses.

Because of all this, I’m not a huge fan of hers.

I’ve spoken to my son about it, and he asked me to be patient.

I’ve also talked to Kat multiple times and asked her to respect my boundaries.

She always says she will, but then goes right back to ignoring them.

Kat found out about a trip she was taking with her daughter.

This is where I might be the jerk: My daughter Sam (20) and I are taking a weekend trip.

Sam has a medical issue and needs to see a specialist a few states over.

She hasn’t disclosed the issue to the rest of the family yet (she plans to do so when she has a firm plan).

Somehow, word about the trip got back to Kat, and she called me asking why she wasn’t invited.

I told her it’s an important trip and not a fun one. She accused me of lying, claiming it was a “mother-daughter” trip that she was excluded from.

She tried to explain, but it only resulted in her snapping.

I told her again, this is not a girls’ trip. She wouldn’t let it go and started demanding that she come, saying that she’s my daughter and needs to be there.

I said no again. She kept insisting, saying I am her “mom” and she has to come on this trip since she’s my kid.

That’s when I snapped.

I told her I will never be her mother. Just because she married my son does not make me her parent.

Now, everyone has their own opinion about it.

I also told her to leave me alone and that even if this were a mother-daughter trip, she still wouldn’t be invited, because she isn’t my kid.

I then hung up.

My son says I need to apologize and invite her because I am a huge jerk to her.

He also said that I was way out of line and needed to make it up to Kat.

The situation has spread to the rest of the family, and everyone seems to have their own opinion.

Sam is getting flack too, which isn’t helping especially since she doesn’t want to disclose the reason for the trip yet.

AITA?

Wow! This DIL sounds like a difficult person to deal with.

Let’s see how the readers over at Reddit feel about what she’s doing.

According to this person, she owes no apology.

For this reader, the DIL is making everything about her.

This person is not wrong.

Here’s a really good point.

She tried to warn her, but the DIL didn’t listen.

It was her own fault that she got yelled at.

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