A dress code is supposed to remove the guesswork, but the one in this story still managed to end in a surprise ambush at the door.

One woman showed up to a family friend’s pool party wearing a normal, fully covering bikini, exactly in line with the “swimwear” dress code that had been specified ahead of time.

Nothing about the outfit stood out during the party itself. Everyone had a great time. Nobody said a word about her clothing choice all afternoon.

Then, right as she was leaving, the host pulled her aside and called her outfit completely unacceptable, blaming her for being “distracting” to the men at the event.

The woman could hardly believe what she was hearing, and neither could redditors. Read on.

AITA for wearing a bikini to a pool party with the dress code ‘swimwear’

I am a 31 year old woman.

She sets the scene.

A family friend has a large house with a swimming pool and recently hosted a pool party because we have had such good weather.

I was one of the people invited, and the dress code was specified as “swimwear.”

People would be attending of all ages.

She wore what she thought was the appropriate attire for a pool party.

I attended wearing a bikini. It was just a normal bikini, nothing skimpy or anything. It covered everything up, including my butt.

The party was really fun, and everyone seemed to have a great time.

She noticed some slight differences in other women’s attire, but she didn’t think anything of it at first.

Nobody gave any indication of having a problem with my outfit, although all the other women were wearing one-pieces rather than a bikini.

That’s when her friend totally blindsided her.

When I was leaving, the host took me aside and told me that my outfit was completely unacceptable.

I was totally taken aback because I didn’t think there was anything wrong with it, and nobody seemed to have a problem.

Her explanation was even more unbelievable.

She said I should have known it was unacceptable to wear a bikini because there were boys there, and a woman in a bikini is “distracting” and “teasing.”

I was really shocked because at no point did I feel like my outfit was causing any issues.

What the heck else are you supposed to wear to a pool party?

Redditors are sure to have some strong opinions.

This commenter says the quiet part out loud.

This is all getting blown way out of proportion.

A bikini to the pool is completely appropriate.

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If the host really cared that much, she should have warned everyone ahead of time.

Calling a fully covering bikini “distracting” and “teasing” puts the responsibility for other people’s behavior onto the woman wearing normal swimwear at a pool party she was invited to.

Waiting until the very end of the party to bring it up says everything. If it were really about protecting her guests, this conversation would have happened hours earlier, not as a parting shot.

Following a dress code shouldn’t require reading someone else’s mind about what they actually meant.