Ah, the “honeymoon phase.” Everyone seems perfect at first… But family and friends are immune to the spell.

In this case, a woman’s sister started dating a new guy, and while they’re already planning to buy a house together, she’s skeptical.

She noticed he has some impolite habits that clash with how their family operates.

At first, she assumed he was simply nervous around their family, but after five times, nothing changed. And his family follows the same patterns.

But now she’s wondering if she’s being too quick to judge. What do you think?

Read the full story below.

AITA Judging my sisters boyfriend too harshly?

My sister (25f) started recently dating her boyfriend (30m) about 4 months ago.

Previously, she had a boyfriend in high school whom she was entangled with for about 7 years. My whole family, including me, despised him.

He was rude, selfish, treated her horribly, and it got to the point where she hid talking to him for years due to our judgement.

So when she was finally done with him and met this new guy (about 2 years post breakup), she was excited to introduce him to our family to finally win our approval.

Things do seem great at first.

Within 1 month of being with this new guy, he moved into her apartment and they got a dog together.

She told me she loved him already and that she saw a future with him (aww honeymoon phase).

They are now currently looking for houses.

I also learned that he was in a previous relationship not too long before this one and that it lasted a few years, they lived together.

This guy actually went to our high school and I knew of him and his family previously, so he wasn’t a total stranger.

She was eager to bring him over to my parents’ house to have him meet them and not long after, he was coming to our Easter and meeting my little family.

But he’s definitely not Mr. Perfect.

He is a very nice guy, he works as a truck driver and seems to be very hardworking. He is also really good with my 6-month-old baby.

He holds him and plays with him and gets him to smile a lot. This makes me really happy.

I feel like a lot of guys wouldn’t even pay attention to a baby, let alone play with one.

The only issue is that he talked about himself at length the entirety of the day and failed to ask a single question to either of my parents, my husband, or me.

I brushed this off though the first time we met him and thought it was just him being nervous.

But it’s a very obvious pattern.

Since then, we have been with him maybe 5 times and the same thing happens.

He talks at length about himself and refuses to ask anyone else any questions. When he isn’t talking, he just sits in silence.

I even talked to my sister about this and she acknowledged that she noticed it too but didn’t know how to bring it up to him.

My parents also noticed and felt disrespected by it because usually when we saw him, he would be over my parents’ house, eating food we made, enjoying their pool, etc.

They don’t feel loved or interesting to him.

Something else that we noticed was that he never said hi or bye to anyone, so when he would leave, we were also left confused.

This past weekend for 4th of July, his parents and younger sister came over to my parents’ house for a cookout. This was the first time both families were meeting.

Afterwards, I noticed that none of them asked any questions to anyone there, they left without saying goodbye and didn’t thank anyone for the food. So it’s not the boyfriend that is the issue, it’s his family.

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AITA?

Yeah, their family tradition is being rude, got it. What did Reddit think?

A reader shares their thoughts.

This person thinks she’s in the wrong.

Someone else thinks she did nothing wrong.

Another commenter chimes in.

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Yup.

Some things are to be expected as basic human courtesy and decency. It’s just about being polite. She’s allowed to have standards and to want the best for her sister and their family.

Of course he has other qualities, and maybe he can listen and adapt. If you can’t even criticize someone’s rude habits, then how are we as a society going anywhere?

As the saying goes, keep an open mind, but not so open that your brain falls out.