There are very few families that are able to blend without a few bumps in the road, but sometimes, one or both parties aren’t even willing to get into the car together at the get-go.

OP lives in New Jersey and bought a house in Pennsylvania when his son decided to go to college there. Everyone was happy, as his son lived rent free and OP and his wife could come and visit without having to worry about a hotel.

My wife and I bought a four bedroom house in PA that my son lives in. Our son went to College in PA and wanted to stay in the area. So we bought the house as a second home, we live in NJ and commute into Manhattan for work.

We figured that he would have a place to live and we could visit every so often and spend some quality time together.

We pay the taxes and services / maintenance on the house, our son pays for his groceries and the house utilities. All was going well for a few years, our son meets a girl and they get serious.

We met her and she seems nice enough. The announce their engagement and she moves into the house with our son.

His son met a girl, who seemed nice when they met her. When they got engaged, though, and the families got together for the first time to talk about the wedding, OP’s family was told they wouldn’t be invited.

Now for the problem: The wedding !!!

We hold a little get to know you BBQ at the PA house, my son and daughter are there, as are our sons fiancé and her parents, and sisters. We all seem to be getting along well, my wife, daughter and the fiancé go into the house along with her mother an sisters and my son.

A few minutes later my wife and daughter come out and are really upset. The come over and tell me we’re leaving and driving back to NJ. I try to find out what happened.

He learned in time this was because his future in-laws found them embarrassing and “not their kind of people.”

Once we get back to NJ and they calmed down they tell me that our son and his fiancé along with her family don’t want us at the wedding. According to what I was told “We’re not their kind of people”.

I was livid, I called my son and asked him WTH this was about. He tells me that her family feel that we are not good enough and will embarrass them at a family wedding and that we are all uninvited from the wedding.

So, OP came back to PA and found all of his in-laws living in his house.

I let a week go by to calm myself down and drive back to the PA house, the new future in-laws are in the house along with the fiancé. It appears that they all moved into the house

They ask me why I’m there, I tell them that since we aren’t invited to the wedding, I was coming over to talk to my son.

They tell me to leave their house.

He promptly gave them all – son included – 30 days to get out before he sold the place.

I lost it, and told them that they had 30 days to get out. Tell my son I’m selling the house and he could find somewhere else to live with all of you.

I go to a realtor in town and list the house for sale.

They call my son at work and tell him what I said. Apparently they thought that he owned the house.

He calls me and asks why I’m selling his house, I tell him I paid for it along with the taxes on it and it is mine. He was living there rent free, but since he doesn’t want us in his new life, he has to get out.

I tell him the same as I told his future in-laws they have 30 days to get out then I’ll get a lawyer and get them evicted.

Am I the AH for taking a hard stance on this? He is my son but the in-laws seem to take over and we no longer count.

Is he being too harsh? Too quick to react? Let’s hear what Reddit tells him!

The top comment has a lot of questions they want answered.

The in-laws definitely sound wild.

This person thinks the engagement might be off soon, anyway.

And this commenter says they’re nothing but parasites.

Some people wondered if we were missing some important info.

This is indeed a wild story.

I am sorry that OP has yet to provide any updates.