Welcoming a new baby is (almost) always a joyous occasion.

But this teenager has his own feelings on the matter, given that he’s already taken on more of a parent than older sibling role with the existing kids.

The details are below, so check them out!

AITA for what I said when my parents announced they were having another baby?

My parents have 7 kids. There’s me (16m), Cayla (13f), Robin (12m), Sam (10m), Laci (8f), Zoe (6f) and Robbie (4m).

It’s a big family. Therein lies the problem.

They only ever intended to have two kids and even with me and Cayla alone, they’d still struggle.

My parents don’t have great jobs. We never had much space in our house to begin with and now we’re all crammed in.

I started working at 13 to get money so I could pay for stuff I needed, like a laptop, which I didn’t have access to when my school first shut down.

We didn’t even have internet then.

Things were rough, but they quickly got rougher as the parents had more and more children.

My parents swore they were done with Robbie and they’d get us back on track and that I wouldn’t need to work just to pay for stuff I needed for school.

The weight of being the oldest is already a lot and I have paid for stuff before.

I babysit so my parents can work nights or get a break. I take care of the house most days so they can focus on earning money.

But it’s a lot and we’re really too big of a family for what we can actually afford.

My parents get help from the government but it doesn’t go far because they’re not good with money or with buying groceries.

He has done so much for others but he was ready to work on his future.

When no baby came right after Robbie I thought they were serious and I started to think about my future.

I’d love to learn to cook better and work in a restaurant.

Not college exactly because we could never afford it and my grades aren’t good enough but something.

Then Monday my parents sat us down and told us they’re having another baby and mom is like 14 weeks pregnant.

They knew for 7 weeks and didn’t want to tell us until they were ready.

My siblings were mostly surprised but me? I said not again.

I think I even cried a little which caught me off guard because I’m not a crier usually.

This was apparently enough to break me though.

His reaction seemed justified but his parents did not agree.

My parents got so angry at me and told me to check my attitude.

I told them they gave me this attitude by being so reckless and putting so much on me and now they’ve broken their promise and we’re going to struggle even more than before.

They told me to stop acting like they’re doing something to me, that accidents happen and they’d never abort, even if they could.

They told me to focus on making things okay and less on being so negative.

This is about way more than struggling with money for the author.

I know people say that having money isn’t as important as long as you have a loving family and maybe that’s true for some people.

But mine feel like a weight I have to carry and not something I’m blessed with. They’re a responsibility on me, a burden really.

And maybe that’s awful to say but it’s how I really feel.

I hate worrying about what’ll happen if they can’t afford the bills or if my laptop breaks and I can’t afford to fix it or get a new one.

Or what if we can’t afford food or we can but I have to pay for groceries instead of save.

There’s a lot to unpack here, but the commenters of Reddit had a lot of good advice for this young man.

Top comment has been in his shoes and is truly disappointed in the parents.

Another commenter says seek out help from a trusted adult and find a way to carve your own path.

This commenter recommends checking out job corp or school grants as options to get himself out of a bad situation.

This commenter feels for the siblings and respects the author’s desire to help, but says it isn’t selfish to put himself first.

Wildly irresponsible of his parents, says this commenter.

He should get to be a good, not worried about paying bills, says this comment.

So who is really the parent here?

It shouldn’t be a teenage boy.

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