Some betrayals don’t come from lies. They come from truths that were never told.

So, what would you do if you found out years into your marriage that your spouse had hidden something life-changing from you? Would you be able to forgive them? Or would the betrayal be too much to move past?

In the following story, one man finds himself facing this very decision after learning his wife kept a secret from him that completely upends their future. Here’s how it went down.

AITA for feeling betrayed after my wife hid that she could never have kids until years into our marriage?

I (34M) met my wife (33F) about ten years ago.

From the very beginning, I knew she was special.

We clicked instantly with the same sense of humor, the same life goals (or so I thought), and just an overwhelming feeling of “this is the person I want to build a life with.”

He thought they both wanted to be parents someday.

As we dated, I made it very clear that I’ve always wanted a family.

I wasn’t pushy about it, but I talked about how I looked forward to being a dad one day and how I wanted to raise kids and create a loving home together.

She never gave any indication that she didn’t want that, too.

She would smile, nod, and sometimes even talk about what kind of parent she thought she’d be.

Everything still seemed great at their wedding.

Fast forward a few years, and we get married.

It was the happiest day of my life.

I loved this woman with my whole heart, and I truly believed we were on the same page about everything that mattered.

Here’s where she dropped the bombshell.

Then, a few years into our marriage, we started talking more seriously about trying for kids.

That’s when she finally drops the bombshell.

She has known since before we even met that she has a medical condition that makes it impossible for her to conceive.

Not unlikely. Not difficult. Impossible.

He can’t believe she didn’t tell him sooner.

I was stunned.

It wasn’t even just that she couldn’t have kids; it was that she knew all along and never told me.

Not when we were dating. Not when I expressed over and over how much I wanted children. Not before we got married.

She didn’t want to lose him.

When I asked her why she never told me, she just said she “didn’t want to lose me” and hoped that by the time we got to this point, I would love her enough that it wouldn’t matter.

She also admitted that she was scared I would leave if I knew.

And now?

I don’t even know how to feel.

Understandably, he’s very confused about this emotions.

I love her.

I loved her.

But I can’t shake this overwhelming feeling of betrayal.

This wasn’t some small omission. She took away my ability to make an informed decision about my future.

She knew this was a dealbreaker for me and just… lied by omission.

I feel trapped. I feel cheated. And worst of all, I don’t know what to do next.

AITA?

Wow! It’s easy to see both sides of this situation, but that was a huge secret to hide.

Let’s see how the folks over at Reddit feel about this.

As this person suggests, he needs to hire a lawyer.

This person gives thoughts about why she may have hidden it.

For this person, it’s simple: Leave her.

According to this comment, he will probably never get over it.

They should try counseling.

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