February 3, 2025 at 2:15 pm

Her Mother Wants Her To Dress Her Twins In Identical Clothes For Family Photos, But She Says Absolutely Not

by Matthew Gilligan

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By the looks of things, it seems like a lot, if not most, parents out there like to dress up their twins in identical outfits.

But not this mom!

And it’s causing some friction with her mother…

Is she doing anything wrong?

Check out this story from Reddit and see what you think.

AITA for refusing to dress my twins identically for the family picture?

“I’m the Mother of 1 year old identical twin girls.

I have never liked the idea of dressing them identically because while they are twins they aren’t the same child.

Whenever I’m given matching outfits I mix and match them to make them look different or rotate who wears what.

She has serious thoughts about this.

I’ve always felt it’s important they be allowed their own sense of self and not have “Twin” pushed on the as a major part of their identity.

Family pictures are coming up soon for my Great-Grandmother’s 80th birthday, we want to commemorate this with pictures and my mother has booked professional photographs for this.

The dress code is formal.

I’ve bought one daughter a sparkly purple dress she is like a little magpie anything sparkly and she is all over it.

My other daughter I’ve bought a green dress with flowers on it as she loves flowers.

I plan to do one daughter’s hair in pigtails and the other will have a hairband.

Her mom got involved…

My mother called me and asked me to dress them alike as it will look cute for the picture.

I told her she knows how I feel about that and that we won’t be doing that, I told her I’d even bought dresses already.

She offered to buy them new matching dresses but I refused.

She told me I was being ridiculous and it was only one picture and wouldn’t hurt them.

When I asked if she’d bought my brothers daughters who are 11 and 7 matching dresses she said no.

Why would she do that which led to me asking her why my children should dress alike then which of course the answer was them being identical twins.

It got ugly.

This led to a rather heated conversation and I told my mother that they are my daughters and it’s my call, all she needs to be concerned about is them being presentable and matching the dress code.

She told me I am being selfish here and it won’t matter, pointing out how lots of twins like to dress alike.

I told her that if they wished to dress alike one day i’d not stop them but till then this is what I was doing.

My brother has since called me and asked me to just do it, that our mother is stressed out and how I can change the girls out of it after the picture and that it’s only a picture and it’d keep the peace.

I know it’s only a picture but it just sits wrong with me, is it really rude of me to not bend on this?”

Reddit users shared their thoughts.

This reader said she’s NTA.

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Another individual agreed.

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One Reddit user shared their thoughts.

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This person chimed in.

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And this reader had a lot to say.

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I guess not all parents think matching twin outfits are cute…

And honestly, that’s fair. They’re her kids.

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