I have been married to my husband for five years.

We are currently expecting another baby this summer.

His brother very recently got engaged (after I found out I was pregnant) and announced they have decided to get married several states away (where she is from).

The problem is that I’ll be close to 40 weeks by the date of the wedding.

The risks are high.

I have a history of “going early” and will probably have the baby before 40 weeks, but there’s no guarantee.

I don’t feel comfortable traveling so far away from my midwife and dragging along several young kids under 3, potentially even a newborn.

My husband was asked to be the best man. My children were not asked to have any involvement with the wedding party as my SIL doesn’t really like kids.

We agreed to have him fly down by himself for the weekend regardless of whether or not l’ve gone into labor.

And some people are not very understanding.

But my in-laws are very angry and my future SIL is saying that we are trying to ruin her day by making it about ourselves.

I just don’t want to travel and risk exposing such a little baby to germs and lots of people.

I’d probably still be in a diaper myself. If we drove, it’d be about 14 hours of driving, not including stopping for breaks with four young kids.

Letting her husband go even if she’s in labor is definitely not selfish! She definitely shouldn’t travel so close to her due date.

Here is what folks are saying on Reddit.

She just can’t win with these people.

That should have been enough! Ugh.

We know our bodies!

Definitely not. Why didn’t they think of that?

You gotta do what you gotta do.

Cancel them all.

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