Communication in relationships often requires tact, especially when the other person is hurting.

A wife, reeling from an excruciating health issue, is blindsided by her husband’s insistence on suggesting unhelpful solutions during her moment of vulnerability.

Read on for the full story!

AITAH for not speaking to my husband while I recover?

I (33F) had a ruptured 5 cm ovarian cyst and have been in the most pain I’ve ever been in in my life.

So her husband decides this is the perfect time to bring up her physical fitness.

I was in the hospital last Thursday, and last night, my husband (32M) randomly comes in to lecture (I say lecture because when he starts talking, he doesn’t stop) me on how I’d probably heal better if I was more active.

I told him cysts don’t work that way, and he said, “I don’t think that’s true.”

But he doesn’t listen and continues to act like he knows everything.

He’s military, so he’s insistent that he knows about how physical health is basically the cure to everything.

I was pretty annoyed at this point, so I’m just rolling my eyes as he says more.

So she started to do her own research to prove her point.

I even did an online search to verify if better health would have prevented the cyst rupture, and from what I read, I was right that better health would not have prevented a rupture.

We got into an argument about it again this morning, because as I’m about to go do something, he stops me to talk about physical health again.

It’s not the words themselves that hurt the most.

I told him that I don’t disagree that I should take better care of myself, but I was upset about timing.

Why did he need to hound me about this now?

He’s still not getting the hint, though.

While I’m in the worst pain of my life, he thought it would be a good time to bring up health since I obviously wasn’t in good health and had to go to the hospital, and he never does.

His words, not mine.

He decides to dig in even further.

He says I’m being insecure about the topic of physical fitness, but I think the way he brought the topic up was insensitive.

Now he keeps asking if I’m okay, but I just ignore him.

AITAH?

Could her husband have chosen a worse time?

What did Reddit think?

The husband really needs to educate himself on something he clearly knows nothing about.

No matter how qualified he may feel about physical fitness, there are certain things he will just never understand.

He may know a lot about working out, but he has serious blind spots when it comes to other topics…

This commenter calls ’em like they see ’em.

Since this guy likes working out so much, he should spend a bit more time exercising those listening muscles.

Sometimes the best medicine is just a little empathy.

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