Some women handle pregnancy differently than other women.

Some women want to share all the details about what’s going on with anyone who will listen, but other women want to be left alone to handle their pregnancy and childbirth is a more private way.

In today’s story, one woman found it really annoying when her mother-in-law pestered her for constant updates when she was pregnant with her first child.

Now that she’s pregnant again, she has decided to do things differently, but she’s wondering if this is a mistake.

Let’s read the whole story to decide.

AITA for withholding pregnancy information from my MIL.

I 25F, am currently 14 weeks pregnant.

When we found out about the pregnancy on new year, we shared the news with my MIL.

Shortly, we called her, she was on speaker when my husband broke the news.

He told her we are pregnant !

Great news for us.

What a rude way to respond!

His step dad didn’t hear what was said and nagged her to share the news( I could hear him over the call) she said “she is pregnant again” with a lot of disappointment and dissatisfaction.

Later she explained to my husband that she was just worried about him.

So now to today and why I am writing this post.

I am withholding information about the pregnancy since that phone call.

She asks pretty normal questions.

She continuously asks how far along I am, if I will find out the gender and when my due date is. Very harmless and normal questions.

But… from my experience with my son (21Month) she was asking in the last month of pregnancy, every week, if I went into labor, then everyday in the last week leading to the due date, and every day past the due date.

She kept insisting she needs to be informed ASAP and it’s very important to her.

Her MIL sounds exhausting!

When she insisted to be in the labor room, I said no.

She insisted to be in the hallway, I said no.

Then she pulled the card “but your mom is going to be there, why can’t I be? I won’t get in the way”.

My mom was no where near the hospital when I was in labor, neither did I ever ask or mention her potentially being there.

I only wanted my husband by me.

She was in labor for a long time.

My husband told his step dad that I went into labor after I asked to keep it to ourselves, after his mom’s shenanigans.

So he broke my trust while I was vulnerable.

I was in labor for 32 hours.

I could hear her call him every hour, he would constantly leave the room, and leave me alone.

He was highly distracted.

Her MIL still didn’t give up.

When he stopped answering her calls she started spamming his phone with texts.

And apparently she was bugging my mom for any information about the labor.

She does everything she can to avoid talking to her MIL about her pregnancy.

Currently. I avoid topics of pregnancy.

Hide under oversized clothes when I am around her, shoot her down when she brings up any pregnancy related stuff.

Act stupid like I never got the due date.

And that I am not sure what the gender would be, no point guessing, that I don’t care about the pregnancy and I am busy with work.

She’s wondering if it’s wrong to withhold information.

I feel like I am the jerk.

But I want to have some privacy, and go through labor and have my husband’s attention on me, and I want to have a few days after the labor where I don’t answer calls or expected to send photos or allow people to visit.

I don’t think I ask for a lot. But AITA?

I am withholding information from my family too, and my FIL (husband’s biological dad) even though they never wronged me.

They don’t pester me to tell them anything, and they respect my decisions.

She’s the one who is pregnant.

Her in-laws don’t need to know any details if she doesn’t want to tell them any details.

Let’s see how Reddit responded.

This person suggests finding someone else to support her in the delivery room.

Another person thinks she should be furious at her husband.

Here’s a suggestion to get her husband to understand how much he messed up.

Another person suggests being very honest.

Her mother-in-law may not realize how she’s coming off.

Or maybe she does.

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