We all need a little help from time to time.

Whether it’s support with an unexpected hospital bill, caring for when we’re sick, or merely some moral support during a difficult time, it’s great to have people to lean on.

But when you start relying solely on other people, problems can start to arise.

And the man in this story has a father-in-law who is one such problem.

For years he and his wife have steered clear, because he’s not a good man.

But now he’s making demands of them, and the people around them are piling on the pressure too.

Read on to find out whether they decided to jump to his aid once more.

AITA for not giving NEET father-in-law money?

My 66 year old father-in-law had three children, each within a year and a half from the next: one girl (my wife), two younger boys.

He was abusive and misogynistic during his marriage, and when my wife was around six years old, he lost his job (under unknown circumstances) and left his wife and kids.

He moved in with his mother (his father was deceased decades prior) and lived with her, being cared and fed by her and her pension. He never paid alimony and didn’t provide any support whatsoever.

He would see his children only occasionally when they visited their grandma. She (grandma) took out of pity and because she thought he was mentally ill (we all came to a conclusion he is).

Yikes! Let’s see how this situation progressed.

My wife’s grandma passed away around fourteen years ago, and my father-in-law did nothing to improve.

His older brother took care of the funeral, but lives in a other state and has no interest in helping him (he is a horrible person, although he actually works, and he wants his brother to die so he gets the house).

My father-in-law just lived off his mother’s savings.

My wife had a tricky relationship with him. He is unstable and seems to have some sort of intelectual disability, albeit he’s not aggressive (he’s thin and very weak).

My wife hasn’t bothered visiting him for the past five years, since he said I was a bad male model for my son and that he needed to be raised by “a real man”, whatever that means.

But then things took a turn for the worse.

Last week he called and asked to see her in person. She asked what it was about, he refused to elaborate.

She called her brothers and they said his money was gone, and they have been secretly helping for a while but can’t any more (both brothers are also deadbeats and have only menial, temp jobs every once in a while).

My wife went there and he said he was now in debt and needed the equivalent of US$2000.00.

He said he wanted a response by email (he is a coward and is afraid to talk to me).

Read on to find out how the couple responded to the father-in-law’s demands.

When she told me that, I wrote an email that basically said I’d give the money if he did three things:

1. Showed me his bank balance and everything he owes, credit card balances, everything. I want to know how deep the problem is.

2. He tells me all of his income sources for the past decade.

3. He comes up with a plan to get a new source of income, either disability checks (which he IS entitled but he refuses to) or a job (he also said many times he refuses to ever work again, never elaborates on why).

Let’s see how the father-in-law reacted to this.

He ignored my email and called my wife, asking her to convince me to give him the money. She asked if he would do what I asked, he was rude and said he wouldn’t.

My mother-in-law talked with my wife. She said she pities him and thinks he’s mentally ill and mentally challenged, and that I should be convinced to pay a monthly allowance to him.

I have zero debts but currently what I earn is what I spend, and we have no luxuries. I have some savings but that’s for our future and my son’s college.

AITA?

Wow, this father-in-law is a huge burden to everyone around him.

While everyone else is pandering to him, his son-in-law is being up-front whilst actually trying to help him.

What is being asked of the man’s adult children is completely inappropriate.

Let’s see what Reddit had to say about this.

This Redditor agreed, and pointed out that the money would only be a temporary fix.

While this person said that he is simply not their problem.

And others encouraged the man to put his foot down.

This shouldn’t be on them.

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