Many people say college is where young adults find themselves — but some overbearing parents sure don’t make that easy.

One sister grew up always feeling like she had to cover for her sister.

So when the two decide to attend the same college, her mother won’t stop treating her like her sister’s built-in tutor.

Read on for the full story.

AITA for not rooming with my sister in college?

My sister, my best friend, and I are all going to the same college.

I want to room with my friend.

Her and her sister have quite the storied past.

For some background, my sister has always struggled in school, while academics have come easily to me.

My mom has always expected me to help my sister with her schoolwork, even when I didn’t take the same classes and didn’t know the material.

One might think that this sort of coddling would end in college, but this mom has other ideas.

Now that we are adults and going to college, my mom still insists that I need to support her.

She even told me, “If she fails out of college, it will be your fault,” just because I don’t want to room with her.

The student tries to stick up for her independence, but her mom won’t stop making her feel bad for it.

I’ve tried to explain that I can still support my sister without being her roommate.

I also pointed out that every other student without a twin has to find a random roommate, but my mom insists that I am abandoning her and that I’m responsible for her.

She’s tired of playing out this tired script with her mother. She had hoped college would be a new beginning.

I don’t think this should be my problem anymore.

I’m finally excited to have my own freedom and make my own decisions without my mom’s influence.

She always tries to guilt-trip me into doing what she wants, and I usually give in, but this time, I’ve decided to stand my ground and do what’s best for me.

My mom told me she hopes I am miserable.

The thought of having to look out for herself and someone else is just too much.

I know there is no way I could possibly be responsible for my college courses and someone else’s.

AITA?

Looks like independence wasn’t on the syllabus.

What did Reddit make of this?

If the mom cares so much, SHE should be the one to move in and help her daughter.

College is about enjoying your independence and she shouldn’t let anyone take that opportunity away from her.

Sometimes we really need discomfort to grow as a person.

It’s okay that some people need a little extra help, but it should never be someone else’s sole responsibility to look out for that person’s success.

Her mother may see it as abandonment, but she sees it as a well-earned graduation from a role she never signed up for in the first place.

If looking out for herself makes her selfish, then so be it.

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