Have you ever had cold feet?

In this story, a shouting match turned an “I do” into an “I don’t know.”

Let’s see if these wedding bells are gonna ring…

AITAH: Fiancé called off the wedding after I yelled back

My fiancé (29M) and I (23F) were supposed to get married in May 2026.

We had a loving relationship (or so I thought), but we struggled with communication.

Whenever I expressed concerns or hurt, he’d take it as an attack and raise his voice.

Recently, he’d started saying things like, “WHAT TONE? YOU’RE JUST TOO DARN SENSITIVE.”

How does someone respond to that kind of defensiveness?

The morning of my bridal appointment, I woke up in our apartment and couldn’t immediately find him.

After calling his phone, I found him in the bathroom so I waited.

About 15 minutes later, I really had to pee and asked him to hurry, only for him to casually say he’d been done for a while but was just watching a 45-minute YouTube video.

Was that when she said, “Wedding’s off!”?

I was frustrated and told him it felt inconsiderate for him to use our only restroom for TV or leisure when I was on the verge of an accident.

He got defensive, saying he had headphones in and didn’t hear me calling him.

I tried to explain that it hurt my feelings when he didn’t consider me, but he started yelling, saying I always ruin his day and make him mad.

This guy is full of it in more ways than one. What will the enraged engaged do next?

I repeatedly asked him to stop, but he wouldn’t.

I finally snapped and yelled back, “I asked you to stop yelling at me BEFORE I YELL BACK BECAUSE I DIDN’T WANT TO FIGHT IN THE FIRST PLACE.”

After I yelled, I immediately started apologizing and taking it back but he just said “I’m leaving.”

This was 30 minutes before my fitting.

While I was trying on my wedding dress, he texted me calling off the wedding. I collapsed in the shop, devastated.

When I got home, I told him that if we both took accountability and worked on our relationship, we could still be happy.

Talk about timing. How will he reply?

He coldly responded:

“I don’t want to be with you. I don’t want to marry you.

I love you, but I’m not willing to try.”

I begged him not to throw away our future, telling him he was my best friend.

His response?

“Well… friends come and go.”

Then I noticed he had a voice memo recording. He admitted he was recording our breakup “to cover [himself] in case [I] lie and say [he] did something.”

Wow. How’s OP gonna deal with that blow?

I think it was advice that his parents gave him that he took to heart.

That hurt more than anything.

I told him he could keep the apartment since I planned to move back to my home state.

The next day, I stopped by with my best friend to grab clothes.

He pulled me aside and said: “You can still come home if you want. I don’t mind sleeping on the couch… also, you are still paying your part of April rent, right? I mean, you ARE still on the lease.”

The nerve on this guy. What’s WRONG with him?

I should also mention that his sister pulled me aside a few months ago to warn me that their whole family thinks my fiancé has undiagnosed bipolar disorder that he is not willing to acknowledge, accept, or treat.

I didn’t believe her at the time.

Hm maybe something diagnosable.

So, AITAH for yelling back after being pushed to my breaking point?

Because on one hand, I’m watching the future we built crumble before my eyes.

On the other hand, I don’t think a real man would leave his fiancée crying in a bridal shop and then ask her for rent money.

I mean I have my opinions on this one.

What do the comments have to say?

One poster says this guy’s picture is in the dictionary next to gaslighting.

Someone else says, thank goodness.

Another poster says, grow from this and move on.

Someone else says don’t give that man a dime!

This poster thinks you can use some wedding money on therapy now.

Sometimes an “I don’t” is a blessing in disguise.

Bye, sir.

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